Yes I Have PTSD, but I Am a Survivor. My PTSD Says, I Have The Power to Save My Day

Most people have been through some sort of traumatic event in their life. Everyone handles things differently since no two people experience the exact same event, upbringing or life. People tend to lead their lives based on feelings instead of actually facts. That means people will either succumb to the events or rise above them.

It isn’t easy but one wonders how some seem to cope better than others. There are those that use avoidance, become abusive, withdrawn, isolated, use alcohol abusively or substances. If a person does not confront those feelings and deal with them there will always be feelings.

If someone does something similar, it brings back those feelings. If a place seems familiar, those feelings can come back. If there is a smell or a sound, it can bring back those feelings. It does because you haven’t dealt with the actual cause of those feelings.

The ones you see that are survivors have dealt with them. They realize it may have been one man or one woman that caused those feelings. It isn’t the entire gender.

It may be a dog that attacked you and now you feel all dogs are vicious. It may  have been one person that stole from you, raped you, molested you or abused you but certain situations are reminders. Certain things bring back those feelings.

So you have an emotional wall up, even if you can’t feel it or see it. You feel you are protecting yourself from further harm. But are you really? Or are you hiding from it? Are you stopping yourself from being free of the past? Are you stopping yourself from loving others and allowing them to truly love you?

You see in protecting yourself as you claim, maybe you are holding in all that hurt and pain. Maybe just maybe you have become afraid of trying again.

You see all dogs are not vicious. All men are not cheaters. All women are not liars. All parents are deceitful or hurtful.

It was them..That one individual…That one group of people or one animal.

Give it back to them. Let them own their behavior and stop punishing yourself for what someone else did to you.

In denying yourself the ability to love or be loved again, you are giving the power back to that person that hurt you. They are still controlling your feelings and behavior.

It hurts to heal but you can. Confront it and deal with it. Oh yes it is hurtful at times and can be painful as heck.  But once you try, just try you give yourself a chance for true happiness.

You give back the behavior of that person to them. You make them accountable for it. Stop accepting ownership for someone else’s behavior!! Stop it.

What happens if you don’t you begin to blame others for all you allow after that. If one person cheated on you, it was them. It was their behavior not yours. If you allow it to continue you can’t blame them.  Remember it ws them, not everyone man or woman but THEM!

 If you want to get into another relationship, let it go. Let go of that one persons behavior and let the new one earn their way. Stop making everyone pay for that one persons actions. You may lose something good.

If you never confront those feelings they will always be hanging around, waiting for the right time to pop up.

So be free of it. Confront it and begin to heal. Learn to love yourself enough to have healthy boundaries so the past doesn’t stay in your life. It may appear again but it is your choice if it stays!

Yes I have PTSD but I am a survivor.

My PTSD says, “ I have the POWER TO SAVE my DAY!”

~Petra Belcher~