When You’re at The Bottom, How to Rise to The Top!

Being a single mother has it’s perks… I’m the one the kids come to when they’ve accomplished something really outstanding, or when they cannot seem to agree on something, which is a huge change from the person I used to be.  I was single for a long time… no kids, just me and it was great!  But it was also lonely.  Between boyfriends I’d always welcome the serene room to breathe and do what I wanted, when I wanted… But when I was finished, there was always an emptiness when I’d sit alone and try to figure out something to do with my time….  I had money, but no one.  I’d usually go to the park and walk.

Now I have two children, 7 and 3, and was doing okay with my first one being born at age 4, up to the time I was 7 months pregnant with his younger sister.  That’s when everything changed…  A cable truck ran a red light, without touching his brake, and slammed me from the passenger side.  I was terrified!  Not because the car I was driving was three days old, but because my daughter had been moving quite regularly, but wasn’t moving at all.

The entire ordeal cost my ability to move effectively, or participate in practically any activities I had been accustomed to; running, horseback riding, bowling, baseball, bowling, or even dancing.  My ability to drive a manual transmission was destroyed.  After three and a half years of fighting the system, arguing with lawyers about the settlement resting at $15,000 when the medical bills alone were over $24,000, I was exhausted.

Here I am now with two children… my savings are gone… my 401k retirement is spent… my belongings are holed up in a storage unit which I pay half of my monthly child support to keep… and we are in a shelter.

The accident also interrupted my schooling which was half finished… and my short-term memory has been rattled to where completing my schooling seems like an unattainable dream.  But it isn’t.

Now I’m working on a screenplay called The Bath School Murders, a set of children’s books (the first one is going to be available through Amazon called The Real Big Foot), and I will make it.  More importantly, WE will make it.  Life is what we make of it, and mine being a disaster is because I’ve allowed it to happen by not paying attention, planning or making wise decisions.

If you want to see how I fair, look me up in about a year… MJ Brewer.