What Women Want

What a Woman wants?

For millennia men all over the world have pondered, studied and had sleepless nights over this question. What does make her tick? Why does she do the things she does? Why is she so different? Is there a secret to this beautiful ‘species’ that we men don’t know about? For many years now, I have read tons of books and articles on understanding the opposite sex. But it was only after I got married, that I truly began to understand what makes a women tick, and how wonderful she can be once you really get to know her.

Granted, I personally think my wife is one in a million. And I’m truly fortunate to have her. But I’m going to list out a few attributes that are common to every woman, regardless of her marital status, race, and religion or even who she is married to. Guys, this is for you, pay attention:-

What she needs

1.       Understanding – Women by nature are more gentle and sensitive. She looks at the world and experiences it through her heart. This is why she feels things more deeply and is easily moved by something that we guys might fail to even notice. And it if for this very reason that she needs to be understood. A woman craves nothing more than for understanding from the one she loves. She wants him to be sensitive to her feelings, anticipate her needs and understand what she is going through. Understanding is what most married women wish their marriage had.

2.       Security – Women need security. Ever since she was a little girl, she has always looked up to her dad as her protector and defender. And as a young woman she looks for it from the man she is pursued by. She needs to know that he will always be there for her, protect her and defend her. When she has that, she feels safe. She feels secure.

3.       Love – The average woman is a romantic to the core. Some women who have had a traumatic or abusive past often turn bitter and hard. Some women for reasons unknown may put up a stone wall around their emotions and may appear to not need love. But this is not true. There is nothing more that a woman desires than to be the object of someone’s affection. She loves to be loved. And she has plenty within her. The more she is loved on, the more love she has to give.

What she wants

1.       Care – Women are natural care-givers. Compassion and mercy come more naturally to them than men. And this is why women love to be taken care of themselves. When a man takes good care of his woman/wife, he is talking her ‘language’. Women love it when their husbands look out for them, treat them or pamper them. She feels special. And that makes her feel like she can take on the whole world.

2.       Listen.  Women are natural communicators. That’s how they de-stress. She needs to have someone who will listen to her when she needs to let out some steam. And this is why almost all women want their husbands to listen to them. Men need to understand that sometimes when a woman has a crisis, she usually doesn’t need a solution (atleast at first). She just needs someone to listen to her. And more often than not, that is half the solution to her crisis. Statistics say that 95% of married women just want their husbands to listen more.

3.       Love – Women want to be the apple of her man’s eye. She loves to be loved. She loves to know that her man is thinking about her all the time. And this is why, the smallest acts of love by the man, move her so deeply. She knows that there is someone out there who is thinking about her, planning his schedule around her, and waiting to meet her. Nothing appeals to a women more than knowing that she is the one and only object of her husband’s affection.

Women make the world a better and beautiful place. It is men who make wars, terrorize nations and shed blood. On the other hand, it is women who have been the cause and inspiration for some of the world’s greatest poetry, architecture and beauty. Notice above that I have stated Love as a point under both her needs and wants. It is part of her being to be loved. It is her language. Anything you do to her or for her, if done with love, will always be embraced and enjoyed by her. We men can learn a lot from her. We need to. And here is the secret – Love is what makes a woman tick. Guys, if you’re looking to capture your woman’s heart, you can put aside the chocolate box and the flowers for now. Learn her language first – Love.  That satisfies her every hunger and quenches her every thirst. Love is what a woman truly wants.