What a Husband Expects From His Wife: Tips to be Happy and Loving Couple
October 2, 2009 by Param Arora
Published in Women
A brief explanation to help the couples to avoid confrontations and disagreements.
Confrontations and disagreements have become a common practice among couples. Hardly any of these couple try to think about the root cause of the issue. Husband and wife normally point each other’s nature and behavior for the disagreements. These confrontations don’t really imply that there is no love between husband and wife. However, the couples have adopted this, as a way of living and loving. The point that I want to put across is, if husband and wife love each other, why confrontation should even exist?
There are many issues that cause conflict, however currently I am trying to highlight one issue which is very common in couples’ life now days. This mainly applies to housewives, however can also prove to be a good learning for working wives.
I am sure many wives already know what their husband expects from them and they are happy couple. However, there is still lot of learning scope. So, I urge these happy wives to keep learning to live happy life. I am not at all trying to convey that husbands are completely flawless. I always support women pointing that husbands should work equally to make the relationship strong.
A wife thinks that her man just wants her for one thing called ‘Sex’ but this is not the only thing that a man expects. Please note that I am not denying the fact that a man doesn’t love sex! I am trying to say that besides sex there are other things which all men want from their women.
I am trying to highlight one very simple issue which sometimes creates lot of trouble between couples. This is an issue of an ignorant husband, who comes back from the office and doesn’t listen to his wife at all. It seems that he is least interested in talking or even looking at his wife. This irritates the wife and she ends up fighting everyday. To a wife, a husband seems more interested in watching television (TV), rather than looking and talking to her. A wife may sometimes feel that a sports or business news channel is her husband’s first wife!! This is not the case at all.
Men are very practical and less emotional but this may vary a bit depending on a particular personality. Above everything, what husband wants from a woman is her support and encouragement. The fact is that a husband loves to work hard and earn more for his wife. Husband wants his wife to enjoy all the facilities in the world and he can work 24 hours 7 days a week to give good life to his women.
A man desires his woman to know him well. He wants her support and wants her to correct him when he is wrong. Tip 1:- The wife should be a true critic of her husband but she should ensure to feed him back in a polite and a decent way. While giving him a true feedback, she should always keep in mind that she is not hurting her man’s pride.
A man never likes his wife to struggle and wants her to enjoy. However, sometimes the struggle is so hard for a man that he can’t buy everything for his wife. This does not mean at all that he doesn’t want to. The relationship between husband and wife is a unique bonding that can never be replaced by any other relationship. When a husband is busy earning, he wants some attention. A man never shows that he wants attention and pretends to be very strong. The fact is that he wants attention and care of his wife. A man wants his woman to understand what he needs and that too without him specifying anything.
If noticed, a husband speaks less. This is mainly due to lot of things churning in his mind. He always wishes to give good life to his wife and to achieve this; his mind is always busy thinking about earning.
When a husband comes back from work, a wife wants his husband to listen to her activities of the day in detail. However, a point to be noted here is that a husband needs time to relax and needs time to adjust his mind according to the home needs. Most of the men prefers watching TV to relax when they come back home. This really doesn’t mean that a man loves his TV more than his wife. The fact is that he needs some space and wants to relax for some time. In this frame of mind he will love his wife to sit quietly with him. He just likes the feeling of his woman being around when he is tired. I know for a fact that sometimes a TV creates lot of problems but if a wife understands the fact mentioned above and give some space to his man, the issue will be resolved. Tip 2: TV is not women’s enemy and when a husband comes back from the work, wife should try to give him some time to relax. The fact is that a man loves his wife more than anything else.
An important point to understand here is that wife should just sit with her husband and watch TV quietly. She should just answer what he asks and don’t just start talking about everything. If a wife starts talking at this point of time, the husband will be least interested and will try to ignore.
A wife’s silence is required for about 30 min to 1 hour. After that she can start interacting. She can try asking questions to her husband like, how was the day etc. Husband will then start talking and then will look much more interested in wife’s talk. This is mainly because husband once free from the stress accumulated in office, is ready to concentrate on home. Then wife can start talking and is free to speak, as husband would then love to listen. He would then be interested and happy to resolve the issues of the day. Tip3: Wife should be patient as her husband loves speaking to her but just takes sometime to adjust.
Once wife’s talking is over, a husband would like to sleep well. And to sleep well, he would really need a pleasure called sex. Husband loves this, as it is stress relieving medicine for them. If a wife is not interested, she should not react strongly rather can just tell her husband politely that she doesn’t feel like doing it. Alternatively, she can simply hug her husband and sleep well. Tip4: If a wife thinks that her husband is really tired, she should give him freedom so that he can treat her with immense love. If the wife is not interested, a sweet hug will do the trick.
This is just one of the issues that I have tried to underscore. But I urge the couples that they should not make confrontation part of their love. Rather, they should concentrate on the root cause, interact with each other and resolve the issue completely. Final Tip: The life is to love each other. So love peacefully and live happily.
Some of my other articles:
What a Girl Wants From Her Guy? Is It Difficult to Understand a Girl? –theory of Love Umbrella
How to Live Peacefully in This Stressed World? Some Tips in Brief
Father and Child-are You a Good Father? Evaluate Yourself
I Am a Beggar: A Forced Business
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October 7th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
I’m in agreement that life is to love and be peaceful. Thank you for the article.
October 11th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
I can understand and fully empathize with your point of view. However, you are speaking about very specific type of people/issues. The picture you paint is what it might have been 1-2 decades back. The wife was ignorant/uneducated with whom an intelligent discussion wasn’t possible, so all that could be done by the husband was to watch TV to relax. I have married children, and my son-in-laws share everything about work with their wives. In fact they are more stressed if the wife is not around to share their work with.
October 15th, 2009 at 12:57 pm
But the woman has been working all day too in keeping the home, running errands,and watching the house to keep it secure. But she had to do it almost in complete isolation, while at work you got to interact and thrill yourself with the sharing of communication. As for sex, I don’t think you should expect it unless it’s at a moment when you both want it at the same time. Well my brother, everyone has an opinion. Wink!