The Profile of a Woman Beater

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This is about women and abuse.  Of course, there are all kinds of abusive relationships, women on men, men on men, women on women.  The classic examples are the ones that I knew about that didn’t seem to add up but were typical.  We think that our Abusive men look like rough necks, but they don’t and often times are not.  I baby sat during most of my Teen years.  My sister lived in a rather upward mobile neighborhood with her husband, was a Beautician and knew many people.  She was young and had many friends who were young, newly married and needed Babysitters for their children just to have evenings out.  One such pair was a Lawyer and his wife a Chicago School Teacher.  When I learned from her blood curdling screams that he was an Abuser, I could not get it.  I thought these would be more raw, thuggish types in my young mind.  Not so.  And I will never forget the handsome neighbor who injured his wife so much, I still think of it.  I was 15.  To look at him, you would think that with the beauty of him, his wife and their children, things like that wouldn’t happen.  I didn’t experience abuse in my home.  Never saw my Dad even curse my Mom.  It was not prevalent in my, nor many of my friends upbringing. But here are some things that I noticed about an Abusive man and his real profile and no, it is not surface……

1.)  He is seldom aggressive towards another man.  I have seen men that I knew abused their women not seize the moment to do the same to another man.  Let’s term him as an actual “Inferior Weakling”.  Yes, that seems suitable.

2.)  He is a Controlling man or wants the power of control and when he doesn’t get it, he’s like an out-of control child who doesn’t know how to act when he can’t get things accomplished so he takes it out on his woman….

3.)  He is immature.  He hasn’t learned about or never had the experience to use judgments in how not to cross certain boundaries……

4.)  He is insecure.  Many times men are just down right weak and insecure about their powers as a man and sees other men as threats.   They can’t wipe out all of the men that may get a gander of his lady’s figure, so he takes it out on her…….

6.)  He is Sadistic.  Yes, some of the more evil, calculating abusers are also Sadistic and love to see you hurting.

7.)  He has been taught this behavior in the home.  When he has witnessed  his mother or any female figure submit after abuse, he finds this to be a learned and effective solution to make his woman submit…….

8.)  He is angry because of life, ineffective careers and ineffectiveness with other people makes him switch targets and come at his lady…….

9.)  His is all of the above.  He is emotionally impotent. 

10.) But most of all, this profile of a man exists because of the Woman.  Abuse doesn’t stop because he has hurt you too much.  It seems to make it worse.  How do I know?  My dear sweet little cousin went into Rehab for a Drug issue and the father of her children came there to visit and killed her there.  It haunts me.  She came from a good home but found love in a horrible man  She had been so powerless in walking away, but when she decided to do something for herself, this is the result.  Knowing her, she was as sweet as could be.  Her mother, my first cousin was treated like a Queen by her husband; she was an only child so abuse did not come from what she saw in the home.  It came from her opinion of herself and a warped love for this man, who now sits to rot in Prison.

Ladies, just walk away. There is too much help out there not to!