Ten Things Jamaican Men Wished Women Knew About Them!

June 8, 2011 by CRYSTAL EVANS  
Published in Women

He prefers to go to the club with his friends than with you. It is not as fun when you are there because they have to be censoring their arguments and frolicking since they do not want to compromise your relationship. Clubbing is their time to unwind and have fun. It does not mean (according to them) it is an opportunity to cheat or find a prospective cheating partner. They are not hunting in packs but simply unwinding with friends while gawking ogling and wining women who are not their partners. They claim that they are just partying and that it doesn’t mean anything and women should not be tight strung about men going clubbing with their male friends.

 I sat on the veranda during the recent torrential downpour listening to my spouse and his friends discussing women and why they thought that Jamaican women do not understand “themselves”. I ask them what were some of the issues they wished women understand that would make their relationships more cohesive and fulfilling.Here are their perspectives….

   1. They love their male friends and their companionship. It is important to them to spend time with their male friends. They bond more with their brethren since they understand them more and can empathize with their situations and experiences than their spouse can. They also feel more comfortable sharing certain information with their male friends.

    2. If you are the wife, you should not be concerned with the assorted women he sleeps with on the side since, you are the one that he comes home to every night. Women should turn a blind eye to their liaisons and infidelities. You should not question his loyalty to you if you are living with him and your needs are being met.

   3. Do not answer his phone or search his phone. Men hate when women invade their private space and they do not want to answer for their indiscretion. They do not want to put the woman in a position for her to witness messages in his phone that may hurt her. You lose your right to question him about anything dis satisfactory you found in his phone since you are by law not suppose to search phone.  “anything you get, you must take, you went looking for something and you got what you were searching for”

  4.Men want to have fun!Do not think that when your Jamaican man starts having sex with you, its a license for you to go ahead and get pregnant and tie him down.  Your Jamaican man wants to enjoy you and he wants to have fun with youbefore you decide to get big and bloated. The onus is on you to protect yourself and maintain the “Fun” in the relationship. Why would you want to complicate a situation with a man you met a month ago by getting pregnant and then by your second trimester, you realise you weren’t getting what you wanted from the relationship.

   5. Babies cant hold man. Do not think that you can trap a Jamaican man into a long term relationship by getting pregnant. You will end up with the wrong end of the stick. Most men (in reality) will withdraw their affection than indulge a woman when he discovers that she is pregnant after he has hinted that he doesn’t want a child or the relationship is still in its embrionic stage. Additionally men do not think that having babies is a synonymous with ambition and progress. An ambitious, progressive woman is less inclined to get pregnant in Jamaica’s brittle adverse financial climate.

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6 Responses to “Ten Things Jamaican Men Wished Women Knew About Them!”
  1. LoveDoctor Says:

    Thanks for the heads- up on Jamaican men. I am not attracted to them, but I wouldn’t date or have a man for anything long-term for the reasons you mentioned. Another one of your good articles.

    If I can’t question my boyfriend or husband once in a while, then he is hiding something. A relationship is 50/50. No clubbing with single buddies if you are married. An assertive woman with a mind of her own and professional is a plus. She doesn’t question or make a scene if another woman calls his cell phone and just ignores it. you got to be kidding.. These controlling macho men want weak-minded women because they can mold them how they want. Eventually, they will become so fearful of not being validated by their partner that they will not voice their own opinions. women are not meant to be barefoot and pregnant, cooking all day while their man is out there with heaven knows who….

  2. R K Vajpeyi Says:

    Poverty, lack of education and proper moral training along with an irresponsible attitude bred by parents who had accepted similar behavior patterns are the root cause of such attitudes anywhere. But, would that ever change?

  3. your friend Says:

    I absolutely agree with the comment of \”love doctor cutie\” ;) this is a joke and any woman who accepts her man doing whatever we wants, cheating with whoever we wants and in the meantime cook his food and also earn the money etc. – must be a absolute masochist. And a guy who expects a woman to do all these things listed is a manipulative selfish bastard who doesn\’t have the slightest respect for the woman he is with and doesn\’t give a s* about her feelings but only sees her as his slave. hopefully these guys don\’t find a woman stupid enough to endure all this bs..

  4. doctor Ron Says:

    true, i can just guess that most of these men are from the lower socio economical class of jamaica. what RK wrote is definitely true. these men have some skewed perception of what a real man is….i mean i read an article that accused jamaican men of being homophobic yet homosocial.these men prefer to spend all them time with their male friends and only go home to eat and sleep and have sex. They work with men, spend weekend with men, spend hours at the bar after work with men and their male friends visit them at home. the only them left to do is sleep with men but here is where the women come in. for men who hate intimate relationship with men, they spend a lot of time bonding with their male counterparts. sometimes i an see why this writer and many other women are frustrated with these men. they are hard nuts to crack!

  5. vio Says:

    from what the writer said……

    Men want to have fun!Do not think that when your Jamaican man starts having sex with you, its a license for you to go ahead and get pregnant and tie him down.

    Why would you want to complicate a situation with a man you met a month ago by getting pregnant and then by your second trimester, you realise you weren’t getting what you wanted from the relationship……..

    well, I strongly disagree, in my case, my 5months old Jamaican sweetheart is begging me to have his baby….. and am still trying to ask myself why he loves babies so much cos i just want to enjoy clubbing with him cos damn…….. he cud dance. :) )

  6. vio Says:

    I actually meant 5 weeks old relationship not 5 months


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