Stamp Out Abuse by Teens

November 10, 2012 by Tulan  
Published in Women

Abusive relationships in high school have become all too common. Girls tend to think a controlling boyfriend is showing his love for her, and boys like feeling macho among their friends. Parents must take responsibility and begin teaching their children to respect each other.

We as parents must teach our children to never tolerate abuse. Young girls today seem to think controlling behavior in their boyfriends is a sign of love. If this continues these girls will find themselves in abusive relationships. Parents should be very aware of how their daughters are treated and take steps to prevent a daughter accepting this type of behavior. Girls today are viewing controlling attitudes on the part of boyfriends as natural. Parents should begin early to teach daughters to expect respect and to tolerate nothing else. Girls must be educated about abuse.

Me And My Parents (Photo credit: Joe Shlabotnik)

The trend of violence among teenagers is often overlooked as nothing serious and to be grown out of, but nothing is further from the truth. One out of six high school students suffered violence at the hands of their boy friends in 2010 according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey. Between 2004 and 2011, 54 domestic violence killings involved couples that began relationships as teenagers.

Parents should suggest to school boards the need for domestic violence programs in schools. Controlling behavior should be looked down on in and out of school and discouraged. It isn’t sweet or funny to see a young man brow beating his girl friend, or is it cute for the girl to accept it. Girls must be taught to stand up for themselves and end any relationship that has an overtone of abuse. It doesn’t mean the boy loves her. It means he likes to have her under his control. Control and abuse has nothing to do with love, no more than a cat cornering a mouse and playing with it means the cat loves the mouse.

Cindy Chastain, teacher at Boston Heights high school, won an award for her work with students, teaching them the warning signs of controlling behavior, and encouraging teens to sign a pledge not to tolerate abuse or violence. One young lady spoke to the class, telling them her story of abuse. It started with dating a boy she knew from grade school and ended with a gunshot in the face in her senior year.

Parents must start early to provide this education to daughters. It is necessary to erase the attitude that prevails among teenagers that this type of behavior is all right. Teach kids to respect each other. Parents of boys must be vigilant to detect this attitude against girls in their sons. It’s a two way street. And parents can stamp it out if they start early.

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5 Responses to “Stamp Out Abuse by Teens”
  1. shavkat Says:

    interesting topic.

  2. Shirley Shuler Says:

    This is a great share Tulan, a must read for all parents.

  3. jennifer eiffel01 Says:

    Very wise advice. I know a girl who had a sister that used to treat her horribly she lives with various guys that abuse her and she treated her brother even worse and my mom saw him in the store a few months ago and he was AGAIN in jail and just got out. Their mother thought the mean one was a princess.

  4. Aroosa Hermosa Says:

    Thanks for sharing.

  5. Moses Ingram Says:

    This is an article that all parents should read. Thank you for sharing.

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