Pedophiles Wives Wear Blinders
The wife of almost every pedophile claims she did not know her husband was abusing children. But we women know our husbands well, maybe even better than they know themselves. Do these particular women wear blinders while their own children and others are being molested or do they feel so isolated and inferior that they have no voice to protest? Psychologist have recently come up with a profile for the wives of pedophiles. It could explain why they are so adept at wearing blinders.
How can it be that wives of sex abusers do not know what their husbands are doing? Could it take a certain kind of wife to keep a blind eye to her husbands abuse of children? It’s not something we are comfortable thinking about. Since the Penn State scandal of Jerry Sandusky’s abuse of boys, questions are arising about the women who share these molesters beds. How could they not know? Laurie Fine admitted on tape that she knew of her husbands abuse of children, and slept in the bed with one of them. She could be a good example of a pedophiles complicit wife, but what kind of woman is that?
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People who know Dottie Sandusky say she is a soft spoken, church going woman. They cannot imagine that she knew her husband was a pedophile and abusing boys in her own house, and her in it. Isn’t there something wrong with that picture? Researchers say the majority of abusers wives claim consistently they don’t know anything about the abuse. Sorry, I don’t believe it. Robin Brouchard, wife of a man who was convicted of repeatedly raping her own daughter said she didn’t know. She thought he was a good father. He coached the child’s hockey team, her soccer team and they’d go out to play ball. How could a woman not know her own husband was molesting her child?
Psychologists caution there is no one size fits all model for these women, but they do share some common characteristics. Most are religious, submissive and shy with very low self esteem. This profile fits Dottie Sandusky to a T. Her life revolved around her church, her demigod husband and his children’s charity, where she served, and where he choose his victims. Some pedophile clues are, lack of sexual interest. Every wife interviewed said they thought it was normal and every couple had sexual problems. I don’t believe that either. Nine out of ten wives have to know. There may be an occasional pedophile that cannot be read by his wife, but it’s hard for me to believe that even one in ten is possible.
Robin Brouchard still says she’s looked back so many times and there was not a single sign. There just wasn’t. People find ways of choosing not to see a lot of disgusting behavior and, maybe it’s just me but I cannot comprehend how a woman can live her daily life with a man and not know him. I think she chooses not to see what’s in front of her eyes.
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