Engagement for The Independent Woman
The big moment for people who always “need” to be in control.
Ever since I was young I have always done what I want to do and done it whenever I wanted to. That’s just the way life is for me, I am a self confessed independent woman who loves to be in control of situations. My engagements no different, I have adapted the role of having this go exactly the way that I want it to.
Some women revel in the idea of the moment that they don’t expect. The moment where the person that they want to spend the rest of they’re life life with gets down on one knee and holds out a ring that they have never seen before. This is the traditional way, but I have never been the traditional kind of person. I trust my boyfriend 100% to do things perfectly but old habits die hard and I cant let go of the control.
I’m the kind of person that doesn’t want the surprise of my future fiance opening a box and my eyes locking on a ring that just isn’t me. I don’t want a traditional small diamond on a plain band, and I most definitely don’t want yellow gold. This is why I have picked my ring out and told him exactly where to get it. A lovely aquamarine stone embedded with diamond shoulders on a white gold band. That is my ring and I have to have it!
I may sound demanding, but the truth is I love him so much that if he got down on one knee and handed me a haribo ring I would still say yes. The fact is however when he asks me to marry him he’s also promising to spend the rest of his life making me happy, and what better way to start than by giving me the ring that I have fallen in love with. The one that I will happily wear on my finger for the rest of my life.
I am always going to have some form of control in our relationship, but at the end of the day I’m still leaving him some too. I’m not going to know when he is going to propose or how.
If you’re like me its all about balance ladies, you sometimes need to let your man do his thing too. The wedding might be a completely different story though but we will get to that as soon as he gets the first deed over with.
My final word on the subject – Its OK to be in control of life’s little things. its OK to want things to be perfect. You just need to know when to draw the line, stand back, and let life run its course.