Common Characteristics of Men Who Commit Domestic Violence

It is common to think that all those who commit domestic violence are men. Unfortunately, in the majority of cases it is men who commit this horrific crime. I must state at the beginning of this article, there are many types of people who commit domestic violence in many forms. It is the nature of old-fashioned laws and structures in even the most modern of societies that has led to men being the most common perpetrators of domestic violence. In more modern times, we are seeing an increase in the number of women and children who are committing domestic violence in our societies. Who ever it is, they need to be dealt with. Knowledge is power, and recognising those who are perpetrators of domestic violence is very important. In this article, we look at some of the common features of men who commit these horrible crimes.

• Private and Public Personalities. The confusing behaviour of those who commit these horrible crimes can be very confusing for both those who are battered, and those who are on the outside of any particular relationship. These people normally have two very different personalities. They are very skilled at appearing proper and very kind in public, and they turn into very different people when they are private with those in their family.

• Public Skills. Batterers are very skilled at appearing very caring in public. They know how to mask their violent behaviour and personality in public situations. This is actually another form of control they use of those they bash while they are in public. For professionals in this industry, they can detect this behaviour because these people will tend to be over caring. For the normal person, this can be hard to see.

• Sociopathic? Most people don’t even understand what it is to be a sociopath. The reality in most modern societies is that around 10% of men and around 5% of women have serious sociopathical tendencies. A sociopath is someone who wants to retain complete control over their victims. They will justify anything they do with a reason, and it is important to understand they actually believe it. A sociopath always has a reason for what they do, and they always have a justification. It is very important to understand they do not have the ability to feel guilt.

• Drugs and Alcohol. In the majority of cases where there is some form of domestic violence, we will find drugs and alcohol involved. Some people can develop very hidden addictions to drugs and alcohol even when they are living in a family. Those who are very addicted to drugs can be very good at hiding them. Drugs and alcohol can change a personality without change of repair over an extended period of time. Addiction and the use of drugs and alcohol in the home nearly always leads to domestic violence in one form or another.

Fortunately, in more modern societies, domestic violence is not as accepted as it once was. We have government bodies that are there to help manage our society and control these crimes. It is the responsibility of every individual in society to raise their own awareness of such crimes. If we cannot stop these crimes, we can help with donations, through simple organisations, such as with simple Chrismas cards where the monies go to helping with such issues. If you look around your society, you will find ways to help, and find ways to educate yourself.