Wedding Tips: Discuss Your Concerns Before Your Wedding Day

Many couples have big concerns about their big day and they should really be discussed well before their wedding day.

Not everything normally goes 100% smoothly when preparing for the wedding so it’s really important that you can discuss any difference of opinion well before the big day.  If these aren’t ironed out at this stage then problems can pop up later on after you’ve married.

Planning a wedding normally brings out areas that need discussing with your partner – usually these are concerns about either partner’s friends and family.  Who to invite or not to invite….. this is one of the biggest problems couples face. 

Sometimes partners have various issues with each other’s friends – these need to be sorted where possible.

If either partner has friends that will be invited to the wedding who may be a concern for the other partner then get the problem solved as soon as possible and decide whether or  not anyone who could cause trouble should really be invited to the wedding. 

The last thing couples want is to have anything to deter from the happiness on their wedding day.

There are a couple of rules that may be of use when inviting guests which could make the planning a little easier:

1. Use the one year rule for friends – if you haven’t had a meaningful conversation with this person within the last year – don’t invite them.
2. Don’t feel obligated to invite people who invited you to their wedding – it’s your wedding so you choose who you want there to share your special day.
3. Exclude children – suddenly a family of 6 reduces to a family of 2…..
4. Keep in mind about 25% of your guests won’t be able to make it.

Another thing that causes concern for many couples is the cost of the wedding itself.  This is also one of the biggest stress factors to the wedding planning. 

In this day and age many couples finance their own weddings, which can make things harder in some ways – Are you a traditional person who expects families to make a contribution or are you happy to pay for the wedding itself? 

If you are offered help then set out a figure earlier rather than later so you know exactly how much you have to pay towards the budget.  If nothing is offered then budget to what you can afford. 

Until you have had an exact figure as to how much the wedding is going to cost, don’t try to guess how much it will be, as this in itself can cause major headaches.  Discussing money is never easy but it’s easier to confirm things earlier than later.

Hopefully these rules will help reduce the strain and concerns you have before your big day.