Choosing a Wedding Officiant

March 3, 2011 by MuskokaGirl  
Published in Weddings

Your ceremony is the heart and soul of your wedding and it will more than likely be the most personal memory of this special day. Choosing a wedding officiant can be more critical than most people would think. Below is a list of things you may want to consider when you decide to hire one.

Most couples, especially those who do not have a place of worship, plan in advance for literally everything, except for a wedding officiant. Referrals can give you a sense of security, but be sure the wedding officiant meets your individual needs and requirements. Every couple is different, so below I listed a few things you might want to consider when hiring a wedding officiant:

The Officiant

If it is at all possible try and meet with the wedding officiant personally so that you are comfortable in their presence. It will help if you discuss in advance what exactly you are looking for as a couple so you can be prepared to ask questions that are important to you. Are they available on your wedding date and can you actually imagine them presiding over your special day? Do you like his voice and what they wear? Are they sensitive and flexible in relating to you? Your officiant should be able to reflect on both of your values, beliefs and all aspects that are unique and special about your relationship.

Pre-Marital Education

Will the wedding officiant require any participation in pre-marital education or counselling? Pre-Marital education is great for learning more about each other’s strengths and weaknesses and will ensure the best possible foundation for a happy marriage.

The Ceremony and Vows

Will the officiant be able to work with you to develop a special ceremony which will honour the two of you as a couple? Can you write your own vows or add special touches? Your ceremony is all about you and should be an authentic expression of who you are as an individual and as a couple. Your officiant should act as a guide and a co-creator.


Where do you want to get married? In a church, on a beach, or at some other special location? Can they travel to the vendor you are getting married at, for example if you are getting married in Ottawa, clearly you want to look for Ottawa wedding officiants.

Fees and Other Considerations

Depending on the services and travel requirements fees may vary accordingly. Would you like to have your officiant only at the wedding ceremony or would you require them to be present at your rehearsal? Do want them at the rehearsal, dinner, reception? Do not assume anything without asking your officiant.

Lastly, do you believe that your wedding officiant will act as a trusted advisor that will meet all your needs by going through listening, encouraging, linking you to other resources and providing direction if needed? This is your special day – choosing the right wedding officiant for you will create a very special memory for years to come.

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