Women, pay attention and are checked for falling in such estererotipos. The important thing is not to criticize, but to analyze what we are doing wrong and couples.
Why people marry unsuitable partners.
Instead like most Jamaican young men, he is content with adding his baby to the litter without making any contributions. He is contented with sleeping with the woman and the three children on the one bed. The room is overcrowded, cramp and provides little privacy for the couple.
He comes back to reinvestigate and while he waits for the next new girlfriend that will fit the script. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what John needs from the relationship, it is just that he needs to realize that his woman has different priorities. Their value system is completely different and therefore what he thinks is repugnant, she considers fun and normative.
Some women like to tell their men that if he doesn’t do this or that then the relationship is over. Some request are profound and if not carried out thus warrant the termination of the relationship but many are simply an insecure woman’s way to solidifying her position with her man and reinforcing her brittle relational esteem and self confidence. For the emotionally unavailable woman, it’s a cowardice route to get her latest beau to dump her because she very well knows that he can never satisfy her demands and if she tells him to leave, he gladly will never come back!
The narcissist wins and continues to win since you love him than you love yourself. He knows that your self esteem is on the ground and he laughs and sneers at you. Every time you crawl back to him, he despises you than he did before because he knows that you are weak. Do you think he does not know that what he does to you is inhumane and appalling? He knows it is wrong but the fact that you tolerate it makes you a lesser human being than he is and therefore in hindsight you may well deserved to be trampled upon.
Went to the health clinic to do my Annual STDs STI and other test to ensure that I was on par with my health and there were a group of girls who are from a clique and apparently had decided it was some kind of trend for them all to get pregnant. These girls were not over twenty. Most of them recently left school. When I told my mother about it, she said “is bare little girls at the clinics now”.
These men have no idea of what an ideal date is. I mean even if he is using me for god sake, make it be so compelling and memorable that I am yearning to be used again. Instead these girls settle for these types of mediocre behavior at the inception of the relationship and expect it to get better after having sex with the man.
This is a non relationship and it should be treated as such. Do not commit your life and invest your emotions in a married man because you are doomed to get hurt since he is already committed to someone else. Some married men do have egg shell empty marriages and their sweethearts are like their illicit second wives whom they love more than their legal spouse but you and I both know that in jamaica such fairytales are few and far in between.