Women, Should We Recycle the Old-Time Relationships
June 13, 2009 by Anne Lyken Garner
Published in Relationships
Is your love greater than boundaries and barriers of modern times?
In Modern society we are bombarded with facts about reusing and recycling, and rightly so. We have now found that even though our ancestors recycled only out of necessity in post war Britain, that they actually had a point, an important one!
We have witnessed a resurgence of this new and urgent wave of recycling with not just our rubbish. We only have to look in our own wardrobes to find evidence of the renaissance of fashion like the mini skirt, pedal pushers, low cut jeans and fish net stockings. But it doesn’t stop there, herbal remedies (even rumours of scientists using the leech to aid in healing) retro interior design etc, threaten to dominate our literature and lives.
But where is she going with this I hear you ask. Aha! I’ve said all this because I am venturing out on thin ice, into a world you and I have never lived. Like the return of the aforementioned, some of us think that due to the crazy rise of divorce in our age the time is ripe for the return of a bit of old fashioned love. Why? Simple. It worked!
When we have gone through – in futility – all the modern steps of keeping him ‘whipped into shape’ maybe we can successfully fall back on the use of a little bit of honey and the art of gentle, positive manipulation which our grandmothers practiced so well.
Grandmas didn’t play mind games
For a start, don’t expect him to read your mind, if there is anything men are hopeless at, it’s knowing what a woman is thinking. To make life easier for both of you, tell him exactly what you want for your birthday for instance, where you want it from and what brand and colour you desire. Not exactly romantic but it takes away the misery of feeling that he doesn’t really love you because he doesn’t know your preferences. Besides, when he sees the thrill on your face when you open your present, his mind chooses to forget that you had actually requested it. Result! Both parties are happy and the juice maker stays un-ordered from Ikea’s catalogue.
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June 13th, 2009 at 6:35 am
You’re giving many wonderful advices in this great article, Anne..
June 13th, 2009 at 7:07 am
Amen, sister! There was a reason that Grandma and Grandpa stayed together for 50 years! I don’t think there is anything wrong with stereotypical man/woman division of labour in the home (unless he actally likes to cook and clean and you feel far more comfortable in the garage changing the oil).
I think that the worst thing for a marriage is the attitude that home is somewhere I go when I am tired of being nice to people. Mutual respect and a bit more tongue biting would go a long way! Remember that honesty doesn’t mean saying everything that you think.
June 13th, 2009 at 7:20 am
If we didn’t know what to do before reading this, we do now. You have given some great tips on recycling your relationship. I like the idea of leaving notes for him. Great article.
June 13th, 2009 at 9:38 am
This was very enjoyable to read
June 13th, 2009 at 10:28 am
An interesting perspective Anne with some excellent advice, it is so easy to slip into negative habits rather take a step back and make an effort, especially after being in a relationship for a while. I also like the idea of the notes. Enjoyable article.
June 13th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
great tips! Great perspective! lol who knows maybe this could lower divorce rates
June 13th, 2009 at 8:15 pm
Very nice article Anne – you always have good stuff to share!
Blessings.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.
June 14th, 2009 at 8:28 am
Thanks, all for your support and kind comments.
June 14th, 2009 at 9:03 pm
I totally loved your article, I am not yet a grandmother, but I have been with my husband for over 23 years, and like everything in life, there are ups and downs. Unfortunately society has gotten to the point if you don’t like something they move on. Thus getting away from the words of God, since people are divorcing 2-3 times in thier lives.
June 26th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
Amen sister, you have the right idea. Grandma knew exactly what she was doing and it worked.