Why Do Relationships Fail? Top 15 Reasons
January 31, 2011 by vijayanths
Published in Relationships
Love makes the world beautiful and gives meaning to human life. Every man and woman longs to be loved. A relationship always starts so well but after a period of time, it fails. They may be still living together for some reason or other but it is not a successful relationship. Why do relationships fail? It’s time to know the reasons. Please read more….
1.Choosing the wrong partner: You should never choose a partner in a hurry. Love at first sight may be good for lust but not for love in many cases. You should first know what you want in your partner? What are your goals? Your interests? How you want to live and enjoy life? Similarly you should also know What does your partner want from you. You should know their goals, interests and so on. In short, you should check whether you are compatible with your partner.
2. Entering into a relationship with a wrong attitude: These days most couples enter into a relationship with a hope that it should last for a few years. They don’t seem to have the killer attitude to make the relationship to last for ever. In India, why most relationships are successful, you know? They enter into a marriage with a strong feeling that it is a permanent one. They never ever think to get separated whatever difficulties they may face in their married life. So lack of strong desire to make the relationship last for ever is one of the biggest reasons for a relationship to fail.
3. Fail to keep the attraction levels high: During the initial period of a relationship both man and woman take good efforts to attract the other. But when they start living together, they take the partner for granted. They think, they have won the race and there is nothing more to achieve. But the fact of the matter is, you should remain attractive to your partner till the end. So even when you are living together, keep the attraction levels high always.
4. Lack of trust: Trust plays a big role in a relationship. If you are always suspicious about your partner, the relationship will become weaker and weaker and break up one day.
5. Disrespect: You should respect your partner and their feelings. If you disrespect your partner verbally or non-verbally, it would definitely affect the relationship. Physical abuse will be a big reason for a break up.
6. Lack of adjustment or flexibility: No one is perfect in this world. You should learn to accept the flaws of your partner. If you can’t tolerate your partner’s bad habits(small of course)and their way of living, you may not be able to save the relationship.
7. Lack of communication: Communication is very important in a relationship. Both do it well at first and later on men seem to stop communicating enough.
8. Fail to spend quality time: If you fail to spend quality time with your partner, it may also affect the relationship.
9. Infidelity: Men seem to cheat for having new sex experiences and women may do it when they are not paid enough attention by their partners.
10. Children factor: Children seem to be a bridge between the mom and dad. Most Indian couples don’t opt for divorce for the sake of their children. If both the man and the woman are living together with the children from their ex partners, these children may even become the cause for a separation.
11. Lack of appreciation: Most people forget/ignore to appreciate their partners. Man is a social animal who longs for appreciation and recognition. Simple words of appreciation can do wonders for your relationship.(I hope you will appreciate this article and post a good comment,lol)
12. Financial factor: In some relationships , financial problems play a big role and becomes a reason for the failure of the relationship.
13.Too much expectations: It is better to keep your expectations levels as low as possible. If you expect too much from your partner, you will end up with big disappointments. Less expectations can strengthen a relationship.
14. Lack of sex drive: If one of the partners is not having enough sex drive it may affect the relationship. A healthy, fulfilling and satisfying sex is very important in a relationship.
15.Unwilling to forgive: To err is human. If you can’t forgive the mistakes of your partner, the relationship will suffer.
Summary: It is easy to enter into a relationship. It’s easier to break up the relationship. But, how to have a long lasting relationship? You should work hard unconditionally to make your partner happy always. Relationship is to give and not to ask. Don’t worry, you will get all you want automatically if you love your partner unconditionally. I know it is easier to say, than to practice, lol. Thanks for reading.
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January 31st, 2011 at 2:27 am
This is so true, but it is difficult to keep up with all these things in a relationship. They have to come naturally.
Christine
January 31st, 2011 at 2:47 am
well said, Christine Ramsay , some people are naturally having these qualities. They are blessed.LOL.
January 31st, 2011 at 3:01 am
I agree with all your points. Relationship is very complicated and fragile. No relationship is perfect, we have to put an extra effort to let it grow and survive.
January 31st, 2011 at 3:26 am
very well said Agasthya , thanks.
January 31st, 2011 at 3:39 am
Very informative and useful stuff.
January 31st, 2011 at 3:43 am
It’s amazing any relationships work isn’t it? *Grins* Fantastic post, keep up the hard work!
January 31st, 2011 at 4:05 am
hi, guraynsj thanks for your response.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:05 am
hi, anndavey650, thanks for the response.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:13 am
well informed
January 31st, 2011 at 6:56 am
I agree these tips will help one attain good long relationships, but it is easier than done. Why? Because of Pride.
January 31st, 2011 at 7:07 am
Thanks CHIPMUNK for your comment.
January 31st, 2011 at 7:08 am
Good advice and very well written, many thanks.
January 31st, 2011 at 7:10 am
well said, papleng, pride is the biggest killer of relationship.
January 31st, 2011 at 7:11 am
thanks Cinders for your response.
January 31st, 2011 at 7:55 am
yeah.. right..
January 31st, 2011 at 8:06 am
thanks solidadah for the response.
January 31st, 2011 at 9:06 am
Awesome share These tips should help those seeking a long relationship.
January 31st, 2011 at 9:20 am
wow, that is quite a list. All really good points. Relationships are hard work, but worth it
January 31st, 2011 at 9:47 am
so true. so very true. i do not know what else you don’t mention here.
Bad thing is I am quite guilty at some of those. grrrr…
January 31st, 2011 at 10:40 am
hi, The Quail 1957 , thanks for the response.
January 31st, 2011 at 10:41 am
yes, Wizard Brown it is hard work but worth as you said, thanks.
January 31st, 2011 at 10:42 am
hi, Franklin, same with me too.grrrrrrrrrrr,lol.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:08 am
its hard work and difficult make a relationship work but is ones of the most beutiful things, be in love
January 31st, 2011 at 11:19 am
Good.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:21 am
hi, robertito thanks for the response.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:24 am
thanks Hendrik for your comment.
January 31st, 2011 at 11:55 am
great share
SK
January 31st, 2011 at 11:58 am
nice share
January 31st, 2011 at 12:32 pm
thank you sunnykumar786 for the comment.
January 31st, 2011 at 12:33 pm
hi, jemialbert thanks for the response.
January 31st, 2011 at 2:16 pm
Agree!! good share.
January 31st, 2011 at 3:00 pm
I really enjoyed this article. Thanks so much.
January 31st, 2011 at 9:35 pm
nice to know about these
January 31st, 2011 at 10:15 pm
thanks rgjimenez for your response.
January 31st, 2011 at 10:16 pm
hi, LJ Spain thanks for responding.
January 31st, 2011 at 10:17 pm
hi, mohammednihal96 , thanks for responding.
February 1st, 2011 at 5:07 am
Ego comes in between, we should learn to manage it—not easy.An excellent post.
February 1st, 2011 at 5:10 am
yes, wonder, ego is a big reason for break up in a relationship, thanks.
February 6th, 2011 at 2:34 am
hey great one yaar…..
Nice artilce..
February 6th, 2011 at 10:53 am
thanks chandru for the comment.
February 7th, 2011 at 12:16 am
Nice article, very relevant and interesting.
February 7th, 2011 at 12:50 am
thanks wizgem8 for your compliment.
February 10th, 2011 at 6:14 am
Great Article. Full marks to you vijayanth.
February 10th, 2011 at 7:54 am
Thanks ganesh for your comment.
February 12th, 2011 at 1:58 am
i totally agree.
February 17th, 2011 at 2:07 am
Fantastic article. Good work.
February 17th, 2011 at 2:31 am
Thanks Lakshmi for your response.
February 26th, 2011 at 9:46 am
Great article.
February 26th, 2011 at 12:11 pm
hi, jemialbert, thanks for the response.
February 26th, 2011 at 12:35 pm
Thanks Franklin for your comment.
March 2nd, 2011 at 8:10 pm
=( may be that explains why i havent found the right one… ?
March 3rd, 2011 at 12:12 am
Good luck Rinoa for finding the right one soon.
March 6th, 2011 at 11:54 pm
Thanks for sharing
March 13th, 2011 at 10:51 am
Fantastic article Vijayanth.
March 20th, 2011 at 3:03 pm
Excellent article.
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