What Happened to Good Men?
September 27, 2008 by Jessilly
Published in Relationships
Good men: Do they exist anymore?
I just finished watching the old movie “Con Air” with Nicolas Cage starring as Cameron Poe. If you’ve never seen it, please stop reading now. I don’t want to get into the whole plot of the movie. Okay … I watched it for the thousandth time today on TNT and I FINALLY realized that the movie is sort of romantic, wow.
How strange that I actually thought to myself: “Now THAT’S what I want in a man.” Okay, not the whole being a convict, masterminding escape, hijacking a plane, killing people for no good reason aspect … but the man who’s willing to freaking go to the ends of the Earth for his lady love.
I’m not saying I’m that girl who watches movies and has raunchy fantasies about movie stars – because I’m not. Nicolas Cage isn’t my idea of sexy – not by a long shot; it’s just that persona he captures with that movie role. It’s awesome. His loyalty is UNBELIEVABLE!!! Men like his character … I believe do not exist anymore. What happened to men like my Grandpa and Godfather? Strong, tough-as-nails, manly men … who were also faithful, honest and sweet as sugar?!
Guys – is it really so hard to not be a complete ass? Is it really so hard to just love a woman for who she is and not how she looks? Please … enlighten me.
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September 27th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
I have seen this movie and I like it a lot. Not all guys are as you might think. I am a very loving and giving man who would do anything in the world for my fantastic wife. I know a lot of guys out there are idiots and the younger ones justify my position on this subject. I waited, after dating many a girl, until I was 34 before I found my true love. Do not ever give up.
September 27th, 2008 at 4:29 pm
I cannot say I’m perfect, in fact far from it, but you are right many men (and women) are dogs. They tend to objectify people and relationships. I do know the movie very well and can appreciate the feelings of this writer as she recognizes loyalty and steadfastness as being admirable. I agree and I do know that even through a failed marriage, because my wife cheated on me, I never gave up, then met someone, withot expecting, and found the love I was supposed to have. I now, and would have then too if I didn’t know better, would lay my life down for my loves and the rest of the world too. Surviving 9-11 showed me that part. Try not to look so hard and keep your heart like your eyes, open. Michael
September 27th, 2008 at 5:20 pm
I think it’s one of those modernization in relationship that is to be blame. There so many kinds of relationship status available in this world today that it got me all confused about the concept of fidelity altogether. There were men like that but not all men were like that. I know it’s gotten worse but then again, not all men are bad asses (thought I did met a few) Just simply looking at them as human beings, you’ll see they’re full of weakness, and being loyal certainly not their best quality. However still such loyalty, if still exist or not, will be a extraordinary finding.
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September 27th, 2008 at 7:35 pm
All it is, is people not growing out of the selfishness we are all born with. They care more about their pleasure, or satisfaction than what his/her spouse will feel and think. one can blame their spouse for neglecting them emotionally or physically, but chances are that thay are doing these things because they see the selfishness that’s there. It’s all just a big blame game, and what we all need to do is think before we act, and take responsibility for all of your actions. Since its our actions and choices that bring the things upon our own lives.
September 27th, 2008 at 9:45 pm
What a man becomes has always something to do with how he was raised. Parents are their childrens no.1 role model. Action speaks louder than words.
September 28th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
I love that movie. Seen it a thousand times, myself. YOu are right loyal, selfless, chivalry type men are rare. I agree with the commment above….its taught at home. Find a sorry man and 9out of 10 times….you will see a sorry dad or mom.