The Baby Trap: When Women Use Pregnancy and Childbirth to Nab Their Men

September 27, 2010 by Jimmy Shilaho  
Published in Relationships

Men are emotionally weak. Most women play on this emotional weakness by getting themselves pregnant or using accidental pregnancy to meet their selfish ends. It is the baby trap and innocent children suffer the most. It is a very effective method of shocking men into their senses but often has the opposite effect.

Most women would stop at nothing to nab a man of their choice. They will use all manner of excuses including falling pregnant just to turn the poor man around and or bring him to his senses. The baby trap seems to work more often than not and for very good reasons. Women know some secrets that about men and babies that they exploit by sometimes ‘forgetting the pill.’

  1. Men are weak – Believe it or not, men are emotionally very weak. The mention of pregnancy scares them stiff. Women know this and strum this cord to make men play along. A woman who wants a man (not love in this case) will desperately try to get herself pregnant in order to play with this male weakness.
  2. Men fear responsibility – The task of taking care of a child, and nurturing him until he learns to support himself is no mean responsibility. Most men would gladly pass this responsibility to women and women know it. Women therefore play the baby trap just to get these men to commit.
  3. A bird in hand is better than two in the bush – You must have heard of these words: bloodline, genealogy, descent, lineage, family tree. These words still mean a lot to most men and women know it. Mention pregnancy followed by ‘the child is yours’ and the fear of losing this bird in hand scares a man.
  4. Closeness to their mothers – Nothing astounds men like the very act of motherhood. Most men are closer to their mothers and will do anything to defend the very act of motherhood. While some men will gladly abandon their wives and children, this only seems to happen when the beauty of motherhood has been dissipated.
  5. Shock therapy – Pregnancy shocks men into their senses more often than not. This shock produces either positive or negative results depending specific men. The fact that pregnancy brings with it other responsibilities permanently destabilizes a man, a chance that some women use to their advantage.
  6. Baby innocence – Who would want to punish an innocent child, who would want to make an unborn child suffer the sins of his parents? Women harbor this feeling and trade baby innocence for their man’s commitment. Does it always work? Sometimes, sometimes not.
  7. Playing the victim – Pregnancy is akin to a chronic disease. It makes most women pitiable. Despite the many disadvantages it brings along such as a fall in the CD4 cell count, some women will seemingly aggravate an already tough situation to burst the wall around their man’s heart.

The baby trap is real. Most women use it to their advantage but sometimes it backfires and brings the exact opposite. Why? Because the time when children meant everything to men has long been gone and this traditional mindset no longer works effectively.

Disclaimer – Not all women use the baby trap. Only the young and restless do so and get burned when scorned by insensitive men. All the best in trying to win his commitment.

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39 Responses to “The Baby Trap: When Women Use Pregnancy and Childbirth to Nab Their Men”
  1. Sweety Says:

    Some realities put into a piece. Good thoughts.

  2. Raj the Tora Says:

    Cannot stop myself from agreeing completely with you, especially as there are many ladies who wield this pregnancy as a tool to make men mere puppets. Great post and excellent analysis, as usual :)

  3. LoveDoctor Says:

    A very good article. Men don’t seem emotionally weak to me. Some women are dumb because they don’t realize that their partner are only using them for sex. This is actually a good test. honey, I am pregnant. If the guy really loved the woman, he wouldn’t care or overreact. This just comes to show you that if most guys weren’t having sex they wouldn’t be in the relationship. But then again, forgetting to take the pill on purpose especially when your partner has made it clear that he doesn’t want kids is not the best way to trap a man, yet so many women seem to think so.

  4. Anuradha Ramkumar Says:

    You have definitely highlighted some realities through this article.

  5. Karen Gross Says:

    Some men will do almost anything for sex, and they don’t seem to make the connection between having sex and making babies.

    Good article. Glad you mentioned that not all women play tricks on men, but some do take advantage of men’s appetite for sex. This is a very irresponsible way to bring a child into the world.

  6. jennifer eiffel01 Says:

    Very good article. I wanted my husband, but I sat with him when he worked on cars in a garage for about 8 years. When he signed up for the army he finally proposed. If he didn’t ropose, I told Jennifer, I would be an old maid today because there was no man out their even a little bit as great as he was.

  7. LCM Linda Says:

    It’s no good to win a man by getting oneself pregnant. Hope those women who have this plan in mind will wake up before taking any action. Thanks for sharing.

  8. webseowriters Says:

    Well written

  9. Silent Wasp Says:

    Your opening statement ‘men are emotionally weak’ is incorrect, because men are far more emotionally resiliant then women. You make it sound like its a weakness to be one with your emotions, this is a misguided analysis of emotion as one must embrace their emotion in life. We experience, we feel, and we think – its what makes us human beings. But yes we are emotional creatures and emotions are supreme to our human existence. This is why emotions are used to manipulate others as emotion can be as destructive as it can be constructive.

    I enjoyed the article, and it brought up many true factors dealing with the issue at hand.

    Dejan :)

  10. The Soul Explorer Says:

    I liked it! You said it very well. Thank you!

  11. Christine Ramsay Says:

    Being forced to marry because of a coming baby cannot lead to a very happy marriage, but then these days the sanctity of marriage means very little to some people. I feel so sorry for the baby in these circumstances. A very good article.

    Christine

  12. Hendrik Says:

    Good.

  13. Temjen Imchen Says:

    Interesting article and trapping man by resorting such means will not bring love.

  14. Phoenix Montoya Says:

    So good to be entertained again my friend. Although, men can sometimes get women pregnant just to keep them :)

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  16. Michal Dorcak Says:

    What an ugly thing. I mean this way of using innocent and usually still unborn child as tool. Anyway, your article is well-written and interesting.

  17. Sudheer Birodkar Says:

    As there are two sides to a coin, this is one side, and there is another to it too. But I agree with what you say, as it applies in many many cases. Congrats on being bold to write this.

  18. zain0077 Says:

    Nicely written.

  19. GodsGrace Says:

    Good Post

  20. Emmie Says:

    Interesting article.. one to make you think- particularly if you are male.

  21. Noeal V Says:

    Nice Share.

  22. My World Says:

    Nice Post……

    thanks for share.

  23. Mark Gordon Brown Says:

    I think that if a man can prove the woman manipulated him – told him she was on birth control when she wasnt, he should get out of paying support, but then again, it takes two to tango so he should use protection just to be sure.

    Women need to realize that most men will not marry becuase of the kid and if they do.. it wont be a happy marriage.

  24. papaleng Says:

    enjoy reading this one. A prelude to “shotgun marriage”.. lol

  25. Ruby Hawk Says:

    If men are so afraid they should keep their pants zipped. I think a man is more apt to persuade a woman to have sex than the other way around. Surely they know about the birds and bees.

  26. wonder Says:

    You have analysed your point of view well. Stimulates debate,however, not at all good for off springs to suffer.

  27. CA Johnson Says:

    This was a very interesting article. There are women who do try to use pregnancies to get men to be with them. You are right. That plan may backfire because the man that they try to trap may not claim the baby and then they would have done that for nothing.

  28. giftarist Says:

    I’ve known some of those type of women. Very well written article.

  29. Tulan Says:

    I think the woman is the one trapped. She didn’t get pregnant by herself and she can’t run away. She gets the bum rap.

  30. Anj M Says:

    Nice article Jimmy :)

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  32. samantha Says:

    this isnt always true sometimes it just happens and you dont wanna get rid of the baby i hate that people always think this.

  33. CRYSTAL EVANS Says:

    i agree with love doc and wasp. i mean in my country the women say that if you want to know the true mettle of a man tell him you are pregnant and you will see how he reacts. i have seen this a lot of times. in Jamaica, a pregnancy does not build a relationship it often destroys it as men are emotionally resilient, irresponsible and scared of commitment. sometimes women do not get pregnant intentionally and some women are pro life and wont do an abortion. if a man does not want a baby he uses a condom. i dont understand why babies and pregnancies are always a woman’s fault as if we can conceive on our own. men if you dont want a child, WRAP IT UP! dnt leave caution to the wind and blame her for trapping you when you concieve. yep guess ma gynocentric..

  34. Jimmy Shilaho Says:

    Thank you for all your comments.

  35. Jon Says:

    Phoenix Montoya Says

    “So good to be entertained again my friend. Although, men can sometimes get women pregnant just to keep them

    How can a man get a women pregnant just to keep them?? For the last forty years, women have had control over whether a man was going to be the father of her child. Period! I am so sick and tired of women stating, “if he did not want to become a father, he should have wrapped it up”! As long as women have the options of abortion (the man has no say in this, it is her body), the pills (regular and morning after), etc. we men don’t have a chance. I am speaking from experience.

  36. despair Says:

    A woman can have an abortion. Also, both parents can agree to give up for adoption but one parent cannot. Jon is correct. Aside from sterilising himself through surgery (which no man or woman should have to do), the point is that there is no contraception that can withstand a woman tricking a man. You should never blame the victim. The victim is the child and yes, the father too. The perpertrator is the woman.

    Lastly it is appalling that men who have been \”baby trapped\” are seen as promiscuous and unloving of children.

    People who say this have no idea what it is like to have been a naive trusting virgin who met a promiscuous woman who used conception by deception. They have no idea how is feels when your baby is disabled because of the amphetamine and other intoxicants the mother took while preganant. They have no idea how it feels to see your child raised to hate you and lie about you. You have no idea how it feels that you cannot tell you child this because you want to protect them.

    Dispair is how it feels.

    I do not mean that children are STI\’s when I say they are a serious possibility which can only be \”protected against\” with \”protected sex based on trust\”. Therefore, I will point out that deliberate infection of STI\’s can cause infertility and death and psycological trauma but I don\’t see people saying,

    \”If he/she didn\’t want to be deliberately infected with a life altering STI, then they should have trusted their seemingly normal sexual partner that having sex without a condom was a perfectly reasonable thing to do\”.

  37. Despair Says:

    A woman can have an abortion. Also, both parents can agree to give up for adoption but one parent cannot. Jon is correct. Aside from sterilising himself through surgery (which no man or woman should have to do), the point is that there is no contraception that can withstand a woman tricking a man. You should never blame the victim. The victim is the child and yes, the father too. The perpertrator is the woman.

    Lastly it is appalling that men who have been baby trapped are seen as promiscuous and unloving of children.

    People who say this have no idea what it is like to have been a naive trusting virgin who met a promiscuous woman who used conception by deception. They have no idea how is feels when your baby is disabled because of the amphetamine and other intoxicants the mother took while preganant. They have no idea how it feels to see your child raised to hate you and lie about you. You have no idea how it feels that you cannot tell you child this because you want to protect them.

    Despair is how it feels.

    I do not mean that children are STIs when I say they are a serious possibility which can only be Protected Against with Protected Sex Based on Trust and contraception. Therefore, I will point out that deliberate infection of STIs can cause infertility and death and psycological trauma but I dont see people saying,

    If he/she didnt want to be deliberately infected with a life altering STI, then they should not have trusted their seemingly normal sexual partner that having sex without a condom was a perfectly reasonable thing to do.

  38. trapped Says:

    any woman who uses this to try and trap a man must be crazy, if anything this would only drive them far far away, and who can blame them really? selfish irresponsible women are one of the main reasons theres so many kids brought into the world without a father, it is morally wrong to make one of an adults most important decisions in life for them not to mention utterly deceitful tricking them. truly a shameful thing to do.

  39. Jane Says:

    I hope any woman that tries to baby trap a man seeks mental help, this article is actually sickening. Forcing somebody to become a father against their will is akin to rape


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