That Greener Grass

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Relationships are a blessing.  Healthy relationships encourage growth in the individuals and lead to prosperity, love, and understanding.  But relationships are susceptible to temptations when they are left unattended.  Like a garden, a relationship requires pruning, maintenance, and nourishment.  It is up to the individuals involved in the relationship to do what is necessary to ensure that what they have stays on track.  It can be unfortunate thing when a relationship becomes plagued by weeds, pests, and lack of nourishment.  These elements can cause a relationship to falter and allow room for temptations to invade them.  Once those temptations start to infiltrate, it can be impossible to remove them from the equation.  Let’s take a closer look at just how detrimental temptations can be to a relationship.

Relationships can come in various forms.  The main temptations that destroy relationships are material possessions, lifestyles, individuals, and unexpected changes.  Let’s take a look how each temptation plays a role in the demise of a relationship.  We’ll begin with material possessions.  Too many times couples can find themselves living beyond their means.  They may decide that the things that the Jones’ have are more important than the happiness that they share together.  Material possessions can create havoc in a relationship.  Since material possessions distract couples from what’s really important, these things will cause one person in the relationship to feel unworthy.  No one wants to be treated as if they don’t matter or if they aren’t important.  But that’s what happens when material possessions invade a relationship.  They take over and they become more important than just the simple things in life.

The next temptation that can take down a relationship is a lifestyle.  Certain lifestyles are not healthy for a relationship, especially when those lifestyles are dangerous and can cause problems in the long run.  A relationship that is built on love should not be influenced by a lifestyle.  In a relationship, both parties have to agree on how they are going live.  A relationship doesn’t work well if one is a drug user and the other is not.  At the end of the day, the drug user will wind up tearing down everything the couple is trying to build together.  Another instance of a lifestyle that can destroy a relationship is when one person is obsessed with their old way of living.   People have to agree to a live a lifestyle that is convenient for the two of them.

The worst temptation of them all is another individual.  A relationship cannot withstand the strain of an uninvited individual.  The presence of someone else in a relationship is a temptation that can lead to destruction.  When there is another individual in the relationship, people can get hurt both emotionally and physically.  The hurt that is inflicted can nearly destroy a person’s ability to move on.  Most people that encounter infidelity in their relationships have a difficult time with trust for the remainder of their life.  They bring that sourness into any future relationships and literal poison something that has the potential to be good.  Many times infidelity is the product of someone in the relationship feeling like the grass is greener on the other side.  Unfortunately, many times the grass is not always greener.  It is just painted a beautiful shade of green to cover up the brown patches that exist there.

The last and probably the least dangerous temptation is change.  Change is always good for a relationship if both parties are on one accord.  But change can be a cumbersome burden if everyone is not on the same page.  It can also be disastrous if the change makes the other feel like they are being left behind or left out.  Change is inevitable in order for individuals to grow.  But when that change is not respected and embraced, it can be an awful thing for a relationship.

As relationships come and go people adapt so that they can be better.  Those that don’t adapt just get left behind in the relationship pitfalls.  So if you have the opportunity to be in a healthy relationship, make sure that you take time to do some relationship maintenance.  Remember to reflect on the little things that make your relationship special.  Remember to share those moments that make your relationship worthwhile.  Relationships are never easy but they are worth the time and effort.  Because the more you put into your relationship, the least you’ll notice the grass that appears greener on the other side.

That Green Grass

Who was that tall drink of water?

Beautiful like a black Adonis

He made my heart skip a beat

He was charming and made me laugh

I couldn’t believe just how interesting he was

He walked like a king and glowed with intelligence

He charmed the panties right off me

I was soaking wet just from the attentiveness of his voice

I was so engrossed with him

That I forgot I was married

For one second I forgot that I had my own grass

That sexy, delicious, black Adonis had drawn me in just that fast

He had that something I was missing

Because he was able to make me forget

About my grass that used to be green

But I pulled myself back to the realization

That I needed to go do some upkeep on my own patch

Instead of trying to go play on grass that appeared to be greener on the other side.