Shopping for a Good Mate

I am not arelationship guru, nor do I work for any of those Internet hook-up sites.  I have experienced the good and the bad of being in a relationship.   I have been in and out of relationships, never taking my time and of course it would always end up in disaster.  When we go shopping for groceries we are extremely careful with our selections, we sniff, pinch and shake.   This is our process we use to grocery shop.  How come we are so quick to select a mate?  Here is some free advice, I hope it benefits someone.

1.  Take your time, there in no rush.

2. Internet dating can be very scary, this process involves chatting it up on the Internet.  You send each other emails and probably exchange photos.  After sending each other a few email or maybe the conversation gets so intense you both decide to hook-up.  Beware!  The person that you have been shooting all those email to, may not be exactly what you expected.  Some of the character are very sneaky and pretty slippery.

3. You might want to make sure that your new mate has a good job.  Going Dutch sound like such ugly words. But if you don’t mind go for it.

4. Don’t suffocate each other, give one another space or else the relationship could have dire consequences.5. If your expectations are really high and you are looking for Prince Charming or Cinderella, you may just wind up along.  Really wake up life is not one big fairytale.  I am not saying that you should hook-up with a dog, but good look don’t necessarily produce beautiful children.  I am say this just in case your relationship works out and you decide to marry.  Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 

6. Hold a mirror to your mates face and make sure they are breathing.  You don’t want to be with someone who completely ignores you.

7. Make sure your mate has some level of intelligence and they are capable of saying more than no and yes.8. If it doesn’t fit don’t force it.  Everything was not meant to be, if it feels right then it is right.

9. Love has to flourish, it just does’t happen over night.

10. Be careful when using the ‘L’ word to quickly, you might scare your mate away.

11. Don’t just be a good talker also be a good listener as well.

12. Be sensitive to one another.

13. It’s okay to be emotional, but save the drama for you mama.

14. Don’t bring dirty laundry into a new relationship. The past should be just that, “The Past”.

Hopefully with this advice and the right selections you should produce a happy relationship. Perhaps somewhere down the line a happy family.

Love is gentle

Love is kind.

Love is what we all should find.