Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know

 Most often than not, we seem to assume that  we know and  understand our men their  reaction to certain assues.The more we adopt this assumption, the  less we get to understand  what they actually feel and are passing through thereby alienating ourselves from  them  without even  knowing it and the same ,we complain of there insincerity towards  our  emotional feelings.

It is against this backdrop that I chose to take us on a ride “the secret about men that every woman should   know”. Just sit back, relax and devour this piece as Barbara De Angelis, an American author and an expert on deal with men. Enjoy it…

There are three questions that, at one time or another, have plagued every woman who has ever had to deal with man-questions that women would love to an answer to;

1. Why do men hate to be wrong?
2. Why do men hate it  when  women get upset or emotional?
3. Why do men seem  to  care less about  love and relationships than women?

Why Do Men Hate To Be Wrong?

You and the man you love are driving to a party in an unfamiliar area of   town. According to the directions, you should have arrived a half hour ago. The     fact is you know your partner is lost. You know your partner is lost. You know you are missing the party. You calmly turn towards him and suggest:”Honey, why don’t we stop and ask for directions?” And to your amazement, your partner responds with anger and hostility, as if  you’d said,Honey,why don’t you  cut  off your arms and legs?” you  hear things like:

“I know where I’m going ok! So stop bugging me.”

“Look who is driving you or me?”

“I know that street is here somewhere. If you’ll just give me a chance, I’ll find it.”

“Okay, forget it, we’ll turn the car around and go home.”

“What, are you saying you don’t trust me?”

If you are lucky, you may just find the house you’re looking for and get to party after all. Or you may drive for hours because your partner refuses to ask for directions.

And as you sit there in the car staring at this wonderful man you love, which has suddenly turned into a sturborn, defensive monster, you think to yourself, if I were lost, I        wouldn’t mind asking for directions. Why can’t he just admit that he is wrong?”

Men hate to be wrong.

They hate being told they are wrong .They hate to suspect that they might have been wrong. And most of all, they hate it when a woman knows that they are wrong before they know it them selves.

Have you ever had a problem? Felt like you needed your man to comfort or love you, and when you reach out for help, had him give you a lecture or advice instead?

Men are brought up to feel they are responsible for fixings things. When you approach your man with a problem that is that upsetting you, he doesn’t always even hear the words you are saying. He “hears”

‘Help me”

“Rescue me”!

“Fix it for me!”

You want love, he give you logic. You want to be “mothered”; he acts more like a father.

Here’s what you need to remember:

1. Men are solution oriented; they don’t understand that women have much more emotional resiliency than they do.
2. When you are feeling upset, tell your man exactly what you want from him, men don’t interpret words like women do they take what you say literally.

Why Do Men Care Less About Love and Relationship Than Women Do?

I always do special little things for my boyfriend, like buying cards, or planning special evenings. If he loves me so much, why doesn’t he think of doing these for me? Can you relate to these statements? most women can, because most have experienced  that the men in their lives appear to care less about love and relationship than women do. The truth is, it’s not that men don’t care about love. But there are some secrets about men and relationships that we need to understand.

If the man does not feel good about his work and his ability to accomplish, he will have a difficult time focusing attention on the relationship. Discuss ways you can help your partner find his sense of worth not just in his work, but in your relationship.

I believe for a man to start living healthier lives, they need to redefine their priorities away from a singular emphasis on financial accomplishment.

Don’t barrage your partner with emotional issues or problems as soon as he   walks in the door at the end of the day. Give his mind time to slow down before you expect to be in a feeling mood.