Men to Avoid: How to Recognise a Heartbreaker

Well, almost all get rejected and heartbroken. Only few have the luck to find the love of their life with their first love.

And some just don’t find a loving and respecting partner. That is why I do not always feel fine to read romantic stuff or to listen to romantic music. I do occasionally, but just break down mentally from it.

So here are some things you might keep in mind before going head over heels and end up on the hard concrete of reality like I did a couple of times or to end up being kept hostage in an abusive relationship, which consequently happened as well.

First of all: if a man appears to be too good, he is.

Don’t go for smooth talkers or handsome guys that attract a lot of women. They are heart breakers and in no circumstances will they ever be good family men.

Think of the number of divorces in Hollywood. Yes, entertainers are artificial people. Pleading guilty here a bit myself, since I am a writer and also tend to fiction. That is why I know I just use emotions to entertain. Underneath my post there is a human being, that most just don’t get.

So that is why entertainers do tend to attract each other, but the catch is: do you have the person or the act?

To not lose all contact with the outside world, I think a good gray zone might also be valuable. Just look at my article about it. Having just friends that do not take to artist, might be a problem and many artists do tend to block contact with fans. So as a fan: do not fall for an artists, just enjoy the art. You are most likely in for a broken heart, denying that rule.

Especially be warned for musicians. We all tend to dream and we all like that man that sings so well about love. Forget it! Most likely they are just the ones who should shut up on the subject, for seldom are they really loving and caring people. For them emotions are there to sell. They might sing about great romances, but are not likely to deliver it themselves.

Do not put your luck on dating sites as well. I do have a feeling that whoever is on that is also desperately looking for a match, or just to use desperate (wo)men.

Never go desperate. That is also a big warning. In that case you will meet a guy that seems perfect, does not look good and does not seem to be perfect, but it might also be that he takes you out of frustration as well and that he starts abusing you. Not all heart breakers and abusers are glamor boys. Some look plain or even ugly. Looks tell nothing about a person.

Rotten apples are everywhere, just do not stay with a man when you don’t feel right about him (anymore).