Learning to Live with Another Person

When you are not the only one in the house, it is at times difficult to remember it is not always about you. 

When you are the only woman living in a house with all men, you sometimes want to scream the very next time you sit on a toilet seat that was left up!  Bidet has a whole new meaning.  And picking up the incessant continuous trails of dirty clothes.

But someday they will move out – all but one, theoretically.  The more marriages and divorces you have, the less tolerant you are likely to become.  And I think the theory that opposites attract is the main way I pay for my raising.  I used to be on time everywhere.  I learned not to care – it will still be there when I show up.  If not, I want not meant to be there.  I have learned to be surprised (unplanned) in lieu of disappointed (never getting there). 

I look forward, not back.  A wise older woman once told me to not get upset unless the person knows about it.  But since it won’t upset them too probably, then don’t waste your time being upset.   You learn to be calmer overall.  And the stress level is not there.  When you get upset, all kinds of bad things happen to your body physically.  Plus you may also antagonize your blood pressure.  Staying calm and practicing patience is the best way to go overall.  Try it and you will see an instant difference.

The most difficult thing I have had to learn to be able to live with someone successfully is that their space does not always have to be spic and span.  If they like a dirty space, leave it alone.  But one this is for sure, I have learned to check that toilet seat.  It is easier than fussing.