Inside the Mind of an Abused Woman

March 17, 2009 by sandra holmes cabeza  
Published in Relationships

It is an article about domestic abuse. What is inside the women that have to live with abuse.

Have you ever felt so consume by your feelings for someone that you allow this person to mistreat you just because every now and then he is good to you and seem to change gears in attitude. This man is the love of your life and you cannot comprehend why sometimes he turn it to your worst nightmare. This person has a double personality one is a sinister one a dark side who can in a split second can turn on you with rage, saying things to diminish you and often using physical abuse.

Domestic Abuse, women in cases like this they know that they are in trouble and that they need help. To embarrass to accept that they are victims of domestic violence they sink more and more in to this web of deception, they cannot seem to be able to get out. Some of them cannot leave they feel that they are not allowed.

An abused woman becomes her spouse prisoner even, if she is moving around and going places in her mind she is a prisoner. Abusive men are good at manipulating; they know how to make their spouse shake in fear with just one look. A victim of abuse feels guilty and ashamed they feel guilt because they cannot do things right to keep their spouse happy. They feel ashamed because they are grown women who often feel as if they were a child.

Most of them still love the man who tortures them; because they live and feed themselves with old memories, back when things were right. They never give up trying to get this person to be the same as they were when they first met. This happens because the same man who is now an abusive aggressive person once and a while at his own convenience is able to change in to this sweet apologetic loving human being, they convince their spouse that for the last time this type of behavior has happened and that it will not happen again.

An abuse woman has to live with the burden of keeping this man happy. That is a hard task when they are feeling like dying inside. Yet they must smile and pretend everything is fine.

People around them see things different; they cannot understand why this woman is still there with this man abusing her they way he does.

Abuse women often turn down offers that programs such as shelters and counselors have to offer. They turn help down because they feel there is nothing anyone can do to help them. The marriage vows, state “till death do us apart” sad to say often is death her death what finally free an abused woman. They die at the hands of the man they once loved and trust.

This is a hard cycle to brake, when they are so many children force to live in the middle of feuding adults. They see mom and dad arguing disrespecting each other, dad slapping mom around so the children often grow up to be abused as well or abusers.

Inside the mind of an abused woman there is no hope, dreams, their lives are empty, and their will to live is broken.

Some women live to tell what has happened to them, those are the few the ones that somehow brake the cycle of abuse.

This is why we must continue to help to offer help even if they do not seem to want or need it. These women often feel overwhelmed by their fears. Our society must continue to build on hope and dreams for those who lost their will to survive. There is hope there is a solution.

Let us educate our young women to learn how to pull themselves out as soon as they see abusive behavior on their husband’s or boyfriends. They need to learn early and on time as they can end up being one of many fatal cases of domestic violence.

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2 Responses to “Inside the Mind of an Abused Woman”
  1. Athlyn Green Says:

    It would prove so helpful if teenagers were taught about this stuff in high school so that at the first sign of trouble they would have the inner resources to react appropriately.

  2. rajeev bhargava Says:

    a wonderfully written article. i agree with you 100%. BRILLIANT WORK!

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