You Can Make It Happen

September 22, 2012 by Tulan  
Published in Friendship

Do you want to see extended family and friends more often. In our fast paced world it might not happen unless special plans are made. And that’s where you come in. You can make it happen.

In our fast paced society, rituals give our need for keeping close to family and friends a better chance of happening. Annual gatherings and get togethers means a connection in spite of a jam packed life. Your “people” might mean extended family, friends you hold dear or any folks that matter to you the most. Make two lists. One of people that it’s practical to get together annually and others that it would be practical to see once a month. Now, call or email your “people” and get them on the band wagon.

Began well in advance of the planned event. What kind of event? College girl friends might enjoy a slumber party, catching up on gossip, trying our facials and painting nails. Harried mothers may want room service and spa treatments. Families with children would possibly enjoy the great outdoors. Extended families might enjoy cabins in the woods with a big dinner and visiting. Whatever you decide, enlist help. Ask for ideas and delegate tasks.

To hold down costs, have the event at someones house, if anyone has a home large enough, otherwise, rent a vacation house and share the expense equally. If elderly folks can’t travel, hold the event near their home. Let everyone know that this is more than a casual gathering, it’s to be something special. Take photos and publish them on blogs and facebook. Set next year’s event before this one ends.

Now you’re ready for the second list. Girl friends might enjoy meeting once a month for an inexpensive dinner. You might want to gather at home for a home cooked meal, enlisting every one to bring a dish. Make the rounds of different homes monthly to avoid over burdening anyone. Or you might want to gather for visiting in the afternoon with only drinks and snacks, from home to home of course.

Reunions can be elaborate, but you can keep it simple. You don’t want to turn it into too much work for the hosts. and you don’t want to subject children to long sit down dinners. You can have sandwiches and fruit and eat in the den. If you have friends that love books, have book club meeting and serve snacks. Use barn raising strategies. Have your friend over to help with your yard sale, in return you can help with painting and so on. A group of friends can get the work done quickly and have fun at the same time.

For ill or elderly friends and family, the telephone can become a ritual. It must become more than a “how are you.” You might work a cross word puzzle together or play bingo. You might read poetry. Make it a regular event and you’ll soon be saving up gossip, jokes or news you’ve heard to pass on to your friend.

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6 Responses to “You Can Make It Happen”
  1. Martin Kloess Says:

    Thank you for this.

  2. lauralu Says:

    Good share thanks

  3. stevetheblogger Says:

    Wonderful thoughts
    Best Wishes

  4. Shirley Shuler Says:

    Tulan, you have some great ideas here, and you’re right, we have to make it happen.

  5. Shirley Shuler Says:

    Tulan, you have some great ideas here, and you\’re right, we have to make it happen.

  6. PR Mace Says:

    Really good ideas here. My brother tried to put together a family reunion for last May. He was trying to plan a really big event and it got out of hand. A family member started a Facebook page and began to tell untrue stories about our parents. In the end my brother called it off. I guess I could write any article on how not to plan a family reunion.

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