When People Take Undue Advantage ..

April 26, 2012 by kiran8  
Published in Friendship

One can recount so many such instances where people take advantage of others and keep doing it again and again.. It is definitely unfair when people take undue advantage of you, it is not true friendship!

Not All people  take undue advantage of others , only some do, and this shows a weakness or greed or some insecurity in their personality make up. There are times when some people take advantage of you openly without caring for your feelings. The other day , Something like  that happened to someone I know  - a ‘friend’ called her up and asked her if she was free to go for a movie since she was keen on watching the movie. She then asked/requested my friend to go ahead and book the tickets online since she was busy elsewhere .They went for the movie and during the interval the ‘friend’ wanted some tacos  and a drink for which my friend had to pay.The ‘friend’ was apparently very apologetic at having forgotten her wallet at home. Later the ‘friend’ told my friend that she actually wanted to treat her and take her not only for the film but also for dinner, (and the next time she would pay for everything )which they still could, only my friend will have to foot the bill since she had no money on her .My friend agreed and they went to an expensive restaurant suggested by the ‘friend’ and she was dropped home as well ! that’s it she hasn’t heard from the ‘friend’ since then .It has been two months and when she tried to call her just for a chat she said that she was busy and would call later but never bothered to call her back…we get to know people through such experiences, but at what cost? It leaves a negative feeling about people . 

One can recount so many such instances where people take advantage of others and keep doing it again and again.. 

It is definitely unfair when people take undue advantage of you, it is not true friendship.I feel that one has to be clear cut about all financial dealings and it is always better to go dutch when you go out together, it saves a lot of misunderstandings that might strain the relationship if it goes on and on. Also, one has to have some dignity and self respect and cannot take advantage of people just because they are being nice.

Sometimes we tend to see goodness in people where none exists and that’s what has happened with me several times and such incidents  make us mistrust all people and become suspicious of their motives which is also not a healthy tendency.. the best way of handling people – give them what you get, mutual respect and regard ! It is also true that one cannot take advantage of us unless we let them do so – however, inspite of being cautious, one can still be taken for a ride from someone who is bent on doing so!

when people behave in such a callous manner one does get disillusioned. We also become a little wiser in evaluating people - it is better to be careful rather than regret later after the deed is done !

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