The Perfect Friend

September 19, 2012 by ireca3  
Published in Friendship

The Perfect Friend is about friendship and the different types individuals may portray.

The Perfect Friend

Have you ever found yourself alone because you felt as if there was no one to befriend or no one to relate?  Sometimes we get into these predicaments due to selfish reasoning or manipulative behavior.  Other people may portray “clinginess” within their friendships, while others are identified as a “pushover” or too giving. There is also the friend known as the “secret revealer”. There is the “overly sensitive” friend.  Then, there is the “perfect friend”. The perfect friend you might ask; no one is perfect. Before we take on that particular idea, let us look at the other “friendship types” previously mentioned.  

First, there is the “selfish and manipulative” friend. These friends will take advantage of you, if you allow it. They will lie to you, in order to get what they want. They are often controlling and spiteful. They are frequently ready to exit the friendship due to a different perspective or not wanting to participate in your activity of choice. 

The next “friendship type” to consider is the “clingy” one. This friend has to call you all the time. They always want to hang out. Sometimes they feel threatened when you have other friends, and possibly will end the friendship due to this fact. They may even seem a little obsessive and overly sensitive. Have you ever seen the movie “Cable Guy”? –Perfect example.

Another “friendship type” is the “overly sensitive” friend. These companions are hard to please. It is easy to offend them. They may be insulted by your advice or suggestions. They are often in out of the friendship with you, due to their perspective on life.

 An additional “friendship type” is the pushover. They mean well, but you can get them to do almost anything. They have a hard time saying no. They are willing to buy you gifts and take you out.  They often ignore their own feelings to satisfy yours.

Yet another friend is the “secret revealer”.  These friends are unable to keep your secrets. They reveal your private information. They feel compelled to let others know what you are doing, when, and how.

As mentioned earlier, there is the “perfect friend”. The perfect friend is not a perfect person, but they portray wonderful qualities. For instance, they follow the “Golden Rule – treat others as you want to be treated.” These friends try to practice this in everything they do. The reason I say try is that sometimes they may fall short due to imperfection, but at least they make an attempt. They are honest; however, they are willing to consider your feelings when offering advice. Although, they know how to give you space and make time for themselves. These friends see the good in others, despite serious flaws. For instance, they are willing to be friends with the “secret revealer”; however, they will only disclose general information. They work hard to maintain their relationships and love those they befriend.

Our friendships can be daunting or amazing. It is partially up to us, as the old adage goes, “if you want a friend, you have to be a friend.” There are a few “friendship types” to reflect on. Some of these types are very juvenile, such as the “selfish and manipulative” kind. Hopefully, you will not encounter this companion past high school. Other “friendship types” are manageable, such as the “clingy” friend and the “overly sensitive” friend. For instance, show the “clingy” friend that you have boundaries; this is great to demonstrate in the beginning of the relationship. Explain to them what this means to you. When you are offering advice to your overly sensitive friend, inform them where your heart is when a suggestion or opinion is given. Overall, it is unpleasant to be labeled any of the previously mentioned “friendship types”, except “the perfect friend”; however, we do not want friends who behave in such a manner. Consequently, we need to value our friends and friendships, take a good look at each type, and ask which one am I? Ask a friend-you may be surprised.

By: Ireca Sims

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

Cover of The Cable Guy [Region 2]

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