Samantha Brick, The Modern Day Feminist
Samantha Brick is a journalist working for the Daily Mail. She wrote an article which was published on the website 03/04/12. In this particular article Samantha, who is a housewife in France as well as a journalist, explains that she constantly gets compliments everywhere she goes, that she always gets free champagne on flights but also that her life isn’t very easy sometimes because most female bosses wont hire her willingly and female friends never wants her around their partners – all because she is so beautiful. She also writes that she has lost several friends because of them feeling threatened by her mere presence, doors have been slammed in her face and she has never once been asked to be a bridesmaid.
When this article was published it created an absolute outrage all over England. Everywhere women (and men) cried “Who does she think she is?” and comments like “She isn’t even that pretty”. When I first read this article I reacted like probably everyone else, with annoyance and doubt. My annoyance however, quickly turned to admiration when I shockingly realised that the real reason why I was annoyed was simple jealousy. I really wish I could be that confident!
It’s actually rather sad, but in a man’s world, women are turning on each other with insults and backstabbing and the reason is insecurities and jealousy of people like Samantha Brick.
I think, instead of spending all of our energies on being insecure, we should all be a little more like her. If we don’t see ourselves as good enough, how can we expect others to?
Personally, I really admire Samantha Brick for having the guts to write an article like this even though she probably knew what a backlash it would create. I admire her for being a feminist, yes I said it. She is a very pretty 42 year old feminist who isn’t afraid to open her mouth and share some tough love.
Since that article, I have been reading all of her following articles and on august 14th she wrote another in the Daily Mail called “You’re too fat, your fiancé is an idiot and that hairstyle puts 10 years on you”.
Already in admiration of Samantha Brick, I loved this article in which she writes about honesty and how she adapted an honesty-policy when she turned 40. She writes about a friend of hers which spent years moaning about her commitment-scared douche of a boyfriend. One day, after yet another phone call from her friend complaining about him, Samantha tells her friend the harsh truth instead of the usual “you poor thing” and “they’re all the same”. Her friend shockingly starts crying and hangs up the phone.
Since I’m one of those people who cringe when watching ‘He’s just not that into you’. I immediately recognised her point of view. At the end of the day, if we can’t be honest with our friends, what sort of friendship is it? Samantha Brick wonders “was this policy really worth loosing friends over?” but adds “I believe that friendships shouldn’t be based on platitudes and insincere flattery”.
She may be an extreme example of a very confident woman, but I genuinely believe we could all learn something from those words of wisdom on tough love.
For Samantha Bricks advice on how to/when to break up with a friend, also read:
Why bad friends deseres to be dumped