How to Handle When You are Falling in Love with Your Best Friend
October 17, 2010 by mooncraft
Published in Friendship
Falling in love with your best friend: How to handle it.
Best friends are special. They were there for us through good and bad. They all know our innermost thoughts. They know what our concerns are and they know what makes us happy. They give us constant joy in our lives and give us support and help when we need it. Often, they know us better than ourselves, which means a deep and meaningful relationships are difficult to break. Now with all this sharing of two minds, hearts and souls, if your best friend happens to be a member of the opposite sex (sometimes the same), it is not surprising that sometimes your feelings do propagates to a region, you can not wait. Let’s face it, when we are looking for a partner for life we do not seek the same qualities in a person, we already have a friendship?
The ability to laugh together, sharing moments, listening to each other and instinctively know what another person is feeling. Share the pain and joy … and when the pleasure is intense with each other. It’s all a part of what is to love someone deeply. You already have a best friend. When you fall in love with him also that is really knew, to say you have all the special elements that go together to make a great relationship … Now it’s time to put them all together to create a close partnership and meet the growing part of the sexual bond, and added a promise of commitment.
Sounds great, right? But wait, there can be only one small detail can not miss … What happens if your best friend does not seem to take into consideration the suggestions and gestures, it’s time to take it to the next level? You do not want to make a fool of yourself, by accepting, not really, or even worse, to lose that special relationship that means so much to you … So what are you doing? You could tell him how you feel. It’s a difficult thing to do, but if you do not want to destroy what we already have, it is necessary. You are vulnerable at this time. Emotions are everywhere, and it can be misinterpreted or misrepresentation in certain situations.
If you do not confide in a friend and he knows how he feels, he may have unwittingly fueled the passion that can not become anything. The author does not tell him how you feel is lying to him, and it is fraudulent. Be respectful and honest. Telling the truth, you give him all the confidence. If it is really the best guy and he loves you, respects the feelings and you can gently downward if the answer is no. You could save a lot of initial confusion, examining their feelings and the feelings that have suddenly turned toward him.
Ask yourself if you feel special when he gives you any attention? Have you ever butterflies in your stomach when you see it or feel jealous if he gets attention from another female? Do you ever think about kissing him? Close your eyes and imagine … you get a nice feeling when you think about it? If you can answer yes to these questions, you may be harboring deep feelings of a platonic friend of theirs. Look at the situation realistically. How long have you been seeing each other? If it is so long and you feel like you spend all your time together and talk a lot on the phone … then it probably means you’re both part of the story, and you had the courage to say anything about them …
If you’ve known for many years, then a step back. Be brutally honest with yourself and ask if they had all this time to ask, then why was not before? This probably means you have feelings for you are merely platonic. But hey, you never know, can not hurt to ask … I personally know someone who had a best friend for 35 years and took this long for the courage to say what he really felt for him. He was crazy about her all the time and never noticed!
Are you flirting with you? This may be a little more than a gift. How do you respond to his flirting? Will it become “sentimental delicate” and type in your arms or smile a lot on you? How does it feel to see other men? Do you need a background or if it is to compete with the new date of your attention? How do you introduce your friends and encourage you to be friends? Dump Is this girl if she refuses to accept that you have a special place in his heart?
Everyone is different and so is each friendship. If you have a special relationship with someone, so deep in your gut instinct about what is happening to other people in mind … Sometimes all it takes is a little confidence in what the other voice can already think. The most important thing is how to bring the subject up, because make no mistake about when the truth is discovered in both cases, the relationship you have with each other will change forever. Ask yourself if you could answer this?
Maybe next time you get to listen to another day failed, so the proposals and to play so that he accepts the date, however, and see what he says … If you throw in your proposal, then you have the answer … If not, then perhaps it is better to leave things as they are. I asked my friend because it was made 35 years with his companion to tell him how she really felt about him and he told me that she had asked him the same thing. His answer was: “I was so special and loving relationship you have, why ruin a good thing that he was not willing to lose the most important person in my life to tell you how I felt like …?”
My friend said: “I hope he told me, because I also think the same thing about him and did not have the courage to say anything!” So if you have gone to the best guy so why not try to find the right time to let her know how you feel? Ultimately, the best relationships are always built on a strong friendship, so why not see if your best friend is willing to let the friendship grow something even more significant, and you can also wait for the right moment to tell you something you!
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October 17th, 2010 at 10:48 pm
I had a friend who really fell in love with her best friend and she kept asking me for advice!
October 17th, 2010 at 11:12 pm
Good one