How to Communicate Better with Pushy People
There is a way to handle pushy and controlling people.
You just moved in your new apartment . Your next door neighbor tries to quickly be your friend by watching every move you make, he/she let’s you know who came by while you were gone. Does this sound like a nosy person? Have you ever met one? A controlling pushy person trying to invite themselves over your apartment just to be nosy. You really don’t know how to communicate well with this pushy person. Here is a few suggestions for a push person:
1. Be kind. You can really observe this person, you can tell if you will have a relationship or friendship with this person in the first few minutes of observing the way they speak. You are really standing or sitting down conversating with them to see if they or talking positive, negative or harsh words, then if they mention something hurtful then it makes you feel uneasy, then you know this person is trouble. Keep being kind at all times. Given them an ear to listen to about all their issues.
2. Communicate From a Distance. If this person has issues its o.k. to listen to other people’s problems, but don’t let them control you by calling or coming over everyday for a ear to listen. You can socialize on a weekly basis when ever to you see them. Sometimes a person can be pushy with communicating everyday. If you have any problems with a controlling, pushy friend you might have to cut all communication off and walk away. You can however communicate at a distance.
3. Don’t allow them to be nosy. I have a friend of mine who I talk to on a weekly basis. We talk about our relationships and children. I made a big mistake by confiding in her all the time, not thinking that she would say anything about what we had talked about. Well, I have a next door neighbor that I talk to in the same apartments that my friend lives in. Everything was thrown in my face about my business from the next door neighbor. She had told me everything my friend told her. Now my neighbor is nosy, she sits outside on the patio to see what’s going on with everybody and talks about people. So now at this time my neighbor tries to be pushy by trying to bring certain people name up. So I have slowed down and cut down all communication with her. I speak to my neighbor from a distance.
Cut all communication with people if it seems like they are being pushy or controlling. Sometimes cutting friendships can lead to violence, some friends don’t like rejection.