How to be More Than Friends

August 31, 2013 by Kinda  
Published in Friendship

It is crucial that you analyze your relationship with your "just friends pal" before you think of changing the relationship to that of lovers that can cause the two of you to be together forever, possibly. Do not look at the person that you want to make more than friends as a short term consideration. Think of whether you want to be with that person long term considering the changes that people go through. Every relationship does not end up in marriage but a romantic relationship means that you will be spending a lot of time together.

How to tell your friend that you want to be more than just friends. Just tell him. Just tell her. This is the 21st Century and there are subtle ways of communication if you are hesitant or apprehensive of letting the friend know that you want to be more than friends. You are not telling the guy or girl that you are in love with them. You are just telling them that you want to take the friendship level up a notch to the romance level for an example. Letting the guy know that you want to be more than just friends is not asking the guy to marry.

You will know if you should or should not tell your friend that you want to take the friendship up to romancing each other. You can tell by the tone of the conversation and the subject matter. If you are interested in taking the friendship to the next level, you may want to ask in a friendly manner, What do you think about us getting romantic instead of just being friends? Ask in such a way that will let him or her have a way out of the conversation without hurting your feelings. You can accomplish this by using a sense of humor or an understanding response if the answer is not what was anticipated.

Humor is always a good way to take the next step of a friendship lightly and easily. You can jokingly ask if, for example, you both go and see a romantic comedy together ask a question relative to a scene in the movie that lets him know that you want to take the friendship level up a notch. Use what is on the movie screen and bring the situation around to the two of you humorously. If he looks at you like you have just spoken something totally ridiculous and impossible imagine, then you need to stop right then and there. That would be one sure way to lose both the friendship and any chance of taking the relationship to a different level. Do not under any circumstances force yourself on your friend. You should then find someone other than your friend if you are ready to get into a love relationship with someone.

The natural sequence would be from friends to lovers but the two levels are so succinct that you have to make sure that both of you are ready to make the transition. The transition is logical if the conversation has been geared to just the two of you being together. If other people are constantly getting into the conversation when you talk about the relationship then it is best to leave thefriendship in the platonic status.

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