Do You Ever Wonder Why The Guy You’ve Been Seeing Suddenly Disappears?

Do you ever wonder why the gentleman you have been recently dating inexplicably disappears when everything is going so well?  You recall the relationship scenario – We were both compatible, we didn’t argue, and we basically had a really good time. The gentleman was kind, considerate, and fun. You ask yourself, “What did I do that was wrong?” You begin to feel hurt because you spent your love and energy on him.

 Ladies, there is good news. There is nothing wrong with you — especially when things were coming along well into the relationship. More often than not, the “fun” gentleman you were seeing was hiding something from you that he doesn’t want you to know about. You have given your very best early into the relationship, and he should have taken that carefully into consideration. He did not appreciate you enough and left because of selfish reasons.  

Ladies, there is also bad news. The reasons why he disappeared suddenly with no explanation are: he’s leading a double life and doesn’t want you to find out his other identity, he was or is seeing someone else and doesn’t want you to know about it, or he was actually married all the time. Although it’s not distinguishing behavior, it’s the easier route to go – leave without any explanation. Perhaps there are more reasons to this, but these are the reasons I’ve stumbled upon from experience.

Take comfort in knowing that the guy you had spent time with is NOT the one for you, and you can move on. Let it go. Don’t even contemplate the reasons why he disappeared so quickly because it’s a waste of time. Proceed forward and find someone who will appreciate who you are. Anyone who is hiding something from you is not being honest with you. This does not set a good precedent for a healthy, honest relationship.

Be careful with your emotions with the next person you are with. Take your time in getting to know him and then decide how much you want to invest in him. Guard your emotions. This isn’t to say that we are to approach each relationship with stoicism, but we should take caution because we don’t deserve to get very hurt.

We women, who love, care, and nurture others, deserve someone who deserves us. You don’t want to give your “jewels” to someone who won’t appreciate it.  You give your jewels to someone who will treasure them. This is the gentleman for you.