Younger Woman: 12 Signs You’re Being Played by an Older Man

June 23, 2009 by Nicholl McGuire  
Published in Dating

Being older means more experience and when an older man has been around the block a few times, he knows what traps a younger woman will fall into. Don’t be tricked by older men who play games! Arm yourself with knowledge before you give up the sex.

Your family and friends are concerned about your sudden interest in a man twice maybe even three times your age.  They wonder what you see in him and secretly you wonder what he sees in you as well.  You hope that this isn’t a fly by night romance for a man struggling with mid-life issues, but how do you know?  There are 12 signs you may want to watch out for when relating to your older man.  So put off the wedding plans in your head and the butterflies in your stomach for a moment while you read the following points.

One.  He is adamant about no surprise visits at his home or work.

Now if he has nothing to hide why would he feel the need to tell you that?

Two.  He will only see you on certain days of the week.

So there must be a schedule set to see one another?

Three.  He often picks out places to entertain you that are far away from the city.

You may want to suggest places that are closer to the city then watch his reaction.

Four.  He doesn’t share any information about his personal life such as mention conversations he may have had with family and friends. 

He is often asking you questions about your day, but when you ask him questions about his day he is vague or unresponsive.

Five.  He avoids spending holidays with you or comes by to see you very late in the day, during his lunch break, or early in the morning.

Once again, you should be questioning why?

Six.  He is overly protective about his belongings especially his cell phone and computer.

Is it necessary to become angry if you just so happen to flip his phone back and look at the screen?

Seven.  He often doesn’t stick to appointments with you because “something came up” which makes him late or causes him to cancel.

An occasional cancellation or an apology for being late is acceptable, but frequently – something is up?

Eight.  He dresses nice on days when he is supposed to be casually dressed.

Did he tell you he had a meeting to go to prior to seeing you?  He must have forgot to mention it or maybe he had another date before he came over to see you?

Nine.  Whenever you try to change his routine or schedule suddenly, he is making up excuses.

Control freak or someone else is controlling his time.

Ten.  He isn’t interested in meeting your family or friends and doesn’t offer to introduce you to any of his family or friends especially his parents.

He simply isn’t serious about you yet, give him some time.

Eleven.  When you bring up marriage, children, or moving in together, he either smiles, avoids the issue, or jokes about it.  Meanwhile, he is telling his friends, “Never again will I get married.”

If you want marriage and he doesn’t, what makes you think that you can change him?

Twelve.  People in his neighborhood, especially women, look at you or him negatively and talk about all the women who come in and out of his home.  They may even mention in so many words how they use to date him and make negative comments about him.

Women can’t keep a good secret, they will expose a bad person or bad behavior, and if she is a women scorned then she will let the cat out of the bag.  Listen to what she is telling you in a round-about way—she is warning you.

If you have noticed all of these signs working together throughout the relationship then you are being played.  Many young women overlook these signs because they don’t want to believe that their older men is betraying them, because they assume that because they look or act a certain way they can’t be played.  Yet, if you were quick to give him your heart, plan your days around him, and believe every little thing that comes out of his mouth without paying attention to his actions, then you are subjecting yourself to his game.  As the saying goes, don’t hate the player, hate the game. 

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One Response to “Younger Woman: 12 Signs You’re Being Played by an Older Man”
  1. jesse darrah. Says:

    seems there wasn’t any need to even put the word OLD, anywhere in the subject and its title. its definitely some good advice for women young or old, with less experience with the silver tongued shark variety of the opposite sex. but what you described is the habits and signs of, a player of any age. unless you can explain to me how a younger male may do it differently. possibly changing the title to “13 signs your being played by your new PARTNER”. it’d be a little bit less misleading. yes i know, i said 13. this last tip was left off the list for some reason. eehm….

    “TIP #13, when getting tips on relationships with significant age differences, be sure they are not by judgmental one sided burnt hearted people. you will notice they tend to over categorize and offer only their strong emotional opinion to you, and would more than likely love for you stay as far away from an older member of the opposite sex even though you may be having feelings for, or are curious about one such person who has caught your attention, because you are obviously in search of some HELPFUL information on the subject. so listen wisely young ladies, or you might just take some advice that could lead you to miss out on something wonderful, such as a companion, or god forbid even love. and remember, listen to your heart, its fun, and life is all about doing what your heart tells you, and enjoying it, and if you DO make the wrong decision, you can be guaranteed to learn best from it, than someone else telling you what is best for you.”

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