Why Would a Divorced Woman Date a Married Man?
It is more common than you may think for a divorced woman to date a married man. The hidden truth is she unconsciously wants to play it safe.
By being in a relationship with a guy that is not available actually solves a problem for her. In a strange way, it supports her resistance of not wanting to deal with the typical relationship issues that come up when dating a single guy.
Now sometimes affairs start out as a friendship. Just because a guy is married doesn’t eliminate him from having friends, does it? So in the beginning this friendship between this man and the woman who is divorced looks just like any normal friendship between two people. Or does it? The reality is when a single woman allows herself to get friendly with a guy who is married it is clearly an accident waiting to happen. But, this is the way lots of affairs get fueled, they start out small and innocent.
As things progress in a relationship with an available man, the woman is often faced with how and when to take the relationship to the next level. If the relationship continues to grow it will come to a point where a decision will need to be made about living together or getting married. This is not an easy decision the second time around. It is not difficult to understand that she is scared to risk the possibility of making another mistake and hook up with the wrong guy again.
But when she is involved having an affair with a guy who is married to someone else, that decision will less likely be an issue. Not as long as he continues to live with his wife. So it is not hard to see that in a twisted way the married dude is safe territory for a woman who is risk adverse.
Another example might be a woman who has had her fill of dating guys who play the field and will never commit to one relationship. She can solve that problem by dating a guy who is already attached. He doesn’t have the time, the energy or the finances to play the field while cheating on his wife, that is unless he’s Tiger Woods. So now you have a guy totally committed to you when he is not with his wife.
A woman that has been married and is now single often really craves a committed relationship. Even though she may have had a difficult time with her ex, she also experienced the benefits of being part of a couple during their time together.
And of course there is the intrigue and thrill of meeting your lover in a secret place to spend the limited time together before he needs to rush back to his wife. That in itself is exciting. And yes, the rendezvous always ends with the emotional pain of parting. So just like in the romance novels your lover says: “We must stay strong for each other until we can meet again.” What could be more romantic than that?
So if you are a divorced woman thinking that you would never knowingly date a married man, think again. You can easily be blind sided as your emotions come into play and you unconsciously yearn for the benefits of being with guy who adds some excitement and mystery to your life. As the other woman your guy is totally yours during the special times you are able to sneak away for another thrilling encounter.