Why Won’t He Call Me Back?

What a great date!  You were on your A-game and he said all the right things.  Your stomach was in knots from nerves, and your heart was racing yet happy.  You felt gorgeous, funny, witty, intelligent…everything!  You felt the connection between yourself and your date.  It couldn’t have gone any better…or so you thought.  After what seems like the perfect date, you find yourself staring at your telephone, eagerly awaiting a call, text, or maybe even an email from what you now think is maybe your future husband.  You start thinking of excuses in your mind,  and it begins to stress you out.  A few days pass, then a week.  You’re beginning to get concerned.  You run that perfect date through your head so many times, you’re beginning to forget what actually happened.  Is he going to call or not? 

It’s not a rare situation and it happens to the best of us.  There are all sorts of reasons.  You’ll bring way too much stress upon yourself thinking of all these reasons though, however, there are a few times you should consider to help solve this mystery, along with some helpful tips:

• Are you positive the date went flawlessly?
  Sometimes we see things differently than other people.  It’s important to always consider both sides of things.  Reconsider your date from HIS perspective.  Maybe you told him a little bit more than he wanted to know, or maybe you said something offensive.
• Were there any awkward moments or gaps in conversation?
  This happens to everyone but it can be especially difficult to handle when it’s a date.  Obviously there is going to be some tension and nerves, but how was this handled?  Maybe he’s just a shy guy and needs a push.  If it’s been a week or so, try giving him a call to just say thanks for the great time you had.  See where the conversation goes, try to keep it light and polite.  Even if you’re the shy one, try giving him a call anyways.  Guys love to see an outgoing girl.  Try to throw out the idea of “doing something again sometime” to him and let him be the one to set the plans.  
• Re-evaluate yourself, and your date
  How did the date itself go?  What did you do?  If you were doing something interactive, were you and your date acting similarly or was it a little more awkward than it should have been?  If you didn’t do something interactive, like see a movie, did you react to it the same way?  These are things that can be big windows into how the two of you connect.  It’s nice to have some similarities with the person you’re dating, but obviously you don’t want them to be just like you.  Basically, if there were points where you look at your date and were sort of baffled, that’s a bad thing.  And, chances are, they did the same to you and one point or another.

So, to sum it up there are many things to consider.  The best thing you can do is evaluate the date from the other person’s perspective and take it from there.  But always give new people benefit of the doubt.  Don’t take it personally if they don’t call you right away; people juggle a lot in their daily lives!  Put the phone down and don’t be so quick to answer when/if they do call.  Dating is basically a game, one that changes in minor ways with different people.  It can be aggravating, frustrating, but keep a light outlook and don’t let things get to you.