Why Some Men are Attracted to Mean Girls
February 4, 2008 by Micheal Bourne
Published in Dating
Have you ever been confused as to why some men are attracted to mean girls? Understanding those men, and what is important to couples, will help your long term relationship succeed.
I just answered this woman’s question and felt compelled to share it.
Question:
Why is it that guys are attracted to such mean girls? I see time & time again nice guys who are with total mean girls. Controlling, manipulative, and nasty. Sure maybe they are pretty or have a nice body. But is it more important to men that their woman look nice or be nice?
Answer:
‘Cause they are foolish (or just haven’t learned yet)
They may deny it, but deep down they know it. Most young guys (myself included) grow up seeing beautiful women on TV and our natural hormones kick in and we want a bombshell. Men are genetically wired to look for a healthy women to have babies with, that’s why long healthy hair, nice breasts and waist to hip ratio are “hot” to us.
Now, at his base this is what a man wants. But when he (if) he matures, he wants a women who treats him good. Beauty IS only skin deep and being with a mean girl DOES get old. Sometimes a “nice” guy doesn’t have the self esteem and wants a good looking girl so bad he will let them treat him like crap. Just like a girl who stays with a jerk who beats her, they lack the strength to stand up for themselves and drop that person.
Superficiality and Marriage Results
Over half of marriages fail in America, I think most of it is because the majority of us who get married are still superficial. Men want the looks without necessarily (or overlooking) what is inside. Women want money, looks and social status , but sometimes overlook how a man is inside and use a man for money or the fact that he is powerful/successful. It is all so superficial and fleeting.
The Relationship Secret You Never Hear About
In my opinion, if you talk to successful truly happy couples, there is an attraction and financial stability, but also a deep spirituality. People don’t have a solid relationship with God, and in the long run it affects not only the relationship but also how they relate and treat their kids. Morales, self love and spirituality (a real relationship with God) are necessary and important.
Mean Girls and Jerks: Long Term Results
Look around, mean girls and jerks (If they stay that way) never have healthy, mutually happy relationships that last. Eventually, we all get older and our looks start to fade. But at the end of the day how you treat each other and how you feel about each other is most important.
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July 25th, 2008 at 8:34 am
My sister-in-law treats her husband like trash and I give him hints that it should not be that way. I let my wife do as she pleases but she never forces me to do something I don’t care to do. I get mad, when I see how she talks down to him in front of everyone and he sits there looking like a small child that has been scolded. He works she stays home, so what is her problem? I would have showned her the front door and that is what he should do. Why tell him to take her to the store at midnight, when they could have gone earlier during the day. I tell my wife and she pretends it’s none of out business but we see it and it affects me knowing a man can be treated in an unhumane way and do nothing to protect himself from verbal abuse. At least no physical abuse is involved but for how long? He has his mother living with them, so something tells me this abuse will end, when she passes away and he will then tell her it’s time for her to move out and start working.
April 14th, 2009 at 4:01 pm
WHAT YOU SHOULD BE ASKING IS WHY SOME MEN ATTRACT SELF-CENTERED, ABUSIVE WOMEN AND VISA VERSA. YOU CANNOT BLAME IT ALL ON THE SELFISH PERSON. WHY DOES ANYONE ALLOW ANY TYPE OF ABUSE? VERBAL, MENTAL OR PHYSICAL? THE PERSON THAT ACCEPTS THAT KIND OF BEHAVIOR SHOULD FIRST QUESTION HIM OR HERSELF. WHAT ABOUT THEIR SELF-ESTEEM OR DO THEY HAVE ANY?