What to Do When Your Man Cheated on You
July 23, 2009 by moniquemenorca
Published in Dating
Ways on how to deal with a cheating partner.
Man’s world that’s what they commonly call it, a world where only masculine ego exist. The Ego which has changed us for centuries.
When a man cheats people would say- that’s fine he is a man anyway but if a woman cheats, she is condemned to the extent that she almost feels like she is crucified and stoned to death.
Well I have a good news for you, my dear women readers fret no more because the antidote tactics is here to the rescue.
When you feel that your man is cheating on you here are the things that you should do:
1. Calm down, investigate, gather proofs (like letters, emails or photos).
2. Do a self assessment- check your hair, skin, nails, face, eyebrows,feet and weight. Well if you are guilty of neglecting yourself, make amends now before it’s too late.Pamper yourself, check what’s in fashion which suits you best. Have a new hairstyle, have a foot spa, and whole body massage, have your eyebrows done properly, use a moisturizer to soften your skin and make it feel supple to touch and lastly wear a seductive perfume- a scent to remember you by.
3. Do not confront your man. Make a research about the other woman and find out what attracted your man to her.
4. Make a sudden and massive change with your routine. Give more priority to your man’s needs like his food, clothes, shoes, doctor’s appointment and exert effort in doing extra mile by giving him a pampering body massage ( get a course in reflexology). It doesn’t have to be you to do everything but at least make sure all these things are done for him. Be home before he arrives. Should he call he’ll be late, say ok and just leave a note before you go to bed.
5. Take note of all the things which you have found out, the action you have taken to deal with it and compile them in a folder together with any proof of deception which you have against him. Then arrange for a dinner to let him know that you know everything, maintain your composure (I know it hurts but just be brave) and ask him if he has something to tell you.
Should he continue on denying then show him your proof (make sure you have 2 hard copies as he might destroy it. Try to talk to him still in a subtle way and see if both of you could manage to sort things out between you. If not give him a time and date when you would both face a marriage councilor just to see if the relationship could still be saved. If not then just let go. Because it is not right to be blamed for the collapse of a relationship because you failed to tolerate him on cheating on you. A man and a woman is equal, if one failed to respect the other and continuously fail to do so then better just end it. It is not healthy for a woman to allow herself to live a life of grief.
Don’t seek approval from what people would say because when you are hurting they are not the one who is dying inside. Other people just enjoy giving comments about somebody elses life but they are the ones who are not even sure where they are heading.
I know it’s not that easy to let go of somebody whom you love and cared for. But let me enlighten you a bit.
It’s difficult to let go of somebody whom you love and who loves you just the same. But it’s not difficult to let go of somebody whom you love and has given you nothing but pain and who has been living his life as a coward and he can’t tell you what he really feels – that he doesn’t love you.
One piece of advice don’t waste your time and tears to somebody who doesn’t even value himself as a man. Life is beautiful, you are a beautiful and wonderful person you deserve somebody better. God is watching, he is just waiting for you to make your first step. He loves you so much that through this message he is helping you to realize things.
Rise above the challenge , those beautiful eyes don’t deserve to cry they are meant to be smiling and enchanting others.
Get up, believe in yourself – bring back that gorgeous you and show your man what he has lost. A gorgeous woman with a loving heart.
“YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU ARE UNIQUE. YOU ARE FANTASTIC , YOU ARE GREAT, WE ALL LOVE YOU”.
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July 23rd, 2009 at 8:01 pm
im not sure how i feel on this subject. as a man if ive made the decision to cheat on my wife, i have to wonder if i rushed into being married. you cant settl for the first woman that says yes you have to mae sure that she is the one, but if ive made that mistake. i would suggest to the women move on. there is nothing that can be worked out with a cheating spouse. once that line has been crossed there is nothing left. most men would put up a front to save their marriage, but would revert right back to the cheating ways. cheating isnt about loving someone else. its about low self esteem. feeling like you couldnt have what you wanted so you settled for what was out there, and every chance you feel like you get what you want you stray. a man has to be willing to change himself for the better before he can love another
July 24th, 2009 at 9:04 am
Wow, I was blown away by your response. You are no doubt a highly intelligent, responsible and one of the most respectable guy whom I have ever met in my entire existence. Honestly.
Very well said.
August 2nd, 2009 at 2:27 am
To FOREVER POETRY.
Best response ever. Totally agreed.