What Men Want in a Partner

Of course every man is different, but there are certain qualities men look for in their partners that are generally universal…

Men love to chase women – it boosts their ego when they catch one – and they are more likely to treat you with respect if they have to win you. People don’t value what they can get too easily. Men do things because they want to, not because they are supposed to. Men will take a partner for granted if they are allowed to.

Men see ladettes as a bit of fun- they seek femininity in a long term partner

Men are sensitive to criticism and have long memories. Mutual admiration figures highly – a supportive partner is supremely important to a man – and undermining and criticising will turn him away. He should do the same for you. There is nothing worse to a man than a woman who demeans or undermines his ego – comments on physique, sex, power, importance, driving…

Men don’t want to be alone – most men do not remain long term bachelors/permanently single. How many women have had the experience of being dumped by a man who didn’t want to be “tied down”, only to see him jump straight into a relationship with someone else?

Men want affection – cold women are a turn off. Men love hugs the same as women and feel connected with a warm, affectionate woman.

Men want a woman they can trust and feel secure with – they will run eventually if they doubt you have these qualities. Men do care what their partner looks like to other men – they feel more like a man if they are getting the thumbs up from their mates – but equally they want the security of knowing she has only eyes for them.

Men want to know a woman will share on all levels – selfishness is a turn off.

Mothering qualities are important for men looking for long term (either for them of for your future kids!). Men love a woman who can cook, hence another cliché the ways to a mans heart is through his stomach – brush up your skills no matter how old fashioned you think this is.

Men love spice in bed whereas the right mood is generally more important to a woman.

Men know what they like in terms of attractiveness and don’t analyse this like women. Insecurity about your appearance will turn a man off as he can’t be bothered with what he sees as pointless obsessions. How often have you heard a man ask does my bum look big in this? Anyway, curves win over waifs every time – do they very best you can with what you’ve got – keep in shape but don’t get skinny.

Men seek a higher form of love but will go for the lower end temporarily if it is offered and will operate on a purely biological level until something more attractive comes along – so don’t operate on that lower level, you’re worth more.

Men have an insecurity radar…set it off and you’re over…signs include negative comments about men/past partners, negativity about other women, and clingy physical contact in public.