What is Your Type?
October 29, 2009 by sexy sunshine143
Published in Dating
Should you disqualify someone just because they are not your type?
The Debate
What exactly does a guy mean when he says that you are not his type? How can a total stranger know for sure whether there is a possibility of a romantic connection down the road based on their particular set of subconscious requirements? The world is full of beautiful people, however, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Is it fair to judge somebody solely on appearance without taking the time to see that person for who they really are? For several years, I’ve been friends with someone who is just too picky with women. He is not a bad-looking guy, but it seems that nobody is ever good enough for him. I have tried to introduce him to some of my friends, but he always comes up with the excuse that she is not my type. And the funny part of the story is that anytime he falls head over heels it is either a super model or someone who is taken already by some other guy. Don’t get me wrong. Looks are very important as well as keeping yourself healthy and in shape. But, I am wondering if he keeps on rejecting girls solely because they are not brunettes with straight hair parted down the middle if he is ever going to be lucky in love.
So, why isn’t he successful in love? The fact that he is too focused on finding perfection could be sabotaging his relationships. There is also the possibility that his fear of rejection and him thinking that he is not good enough could be pushing other women away without him even knowing it. Judging someone solely because they are not your type is not a very smart thing to do if you ask me because you never know if you might miss out on someone with similar interests and values like you. On the other hand, if you are a guy who enjoys playing the field and are thinking of casually dating forever, then there’s nothing wrong with having a different flavor each month based on your own set of specific requirements.
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The world is full of beautiful people. However, just because somebody has good looks doesn’t necessarily mean that you are going to be compatible in terms of personalities. Inviting Ms. America to your favorite restaurant and not having any topic of conversation except for her talking about herself the entire night and how she can only order a salad with carrot sticks and a glass of water for dinner. I am sure any guy would be looking for an excuse to get up from the table to go to the bathroom.
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October 29th, 2009 at 11:50 am
Very true indeed!
October 29th, 2009 at 11:50 am
your topics are interesting as always,enjoyed read.
October 29th, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Nothing can be more sane.
October 29th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
all men first see beauty
eyes then the bosom
and then weigh ….
thoughts of mental comaptibility come later
first sexual compatibility is put to test
when time is brief
that is man’s nature
quicky
October 29th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Let’s see. Which one should I comment on. Oh, he’ll miss out on Miss Right one day if he’s not careful. He’ll overlook an orchid while searching for a rose.
October 29th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
I think you friend has gotten into the habit of having crushes on super models or people already in a relationship and has forgotten how to date. I bet he plays scenarios with these women over and over in his head and of course in his head they are PERFECT women that treat him like a god. So in real life when he gets with other women it just doesn’t cut it!
Great article and a topic we could chat about all night!! you go get the wine, I’ll be over later… LOL
October 29th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Interesting article! Enjoyable.
October 29th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
Sometimes it’s not good to have such high standard, you might walk right pass the perfect mate. Nice write!
October 29th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
A very good article. My husband is not my type if you judge on looks, but he is absolutely right for me in so many ways.
October 29th, 2009 at 11:11 pm
Lily Rose,
I really enjoyed your post. Maybe you can talk to my friend someday and see what’s his issue is. I am done being his psychologist. you made me laugh with the wine
October 29th, 2009 at 11:12 pm
Thank you all for the comments.
October 30th, 2009 at 3:41 am
It was a very interesting read, considering the subject is normally not my type.
November 1st, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Nice article.
Blessings.
Sincerely,
-Liane Schmidt.