The Path to my Heart: Confessions From a Man

Recently, I have observed many different reasons, from many different women, how to please a man, and get the most out of the relationship. While there is not any concrete method that can be used, I would like to give some insight from the male point of view. These statements cannot be generalized because each man is different depending on which stage of life that he may be in, but I can enlighten you from my observations and experiences.

In order for any woman to effectively be successful in finding out what pleases a man, she must understand the makeup of a man. For the most part, men are analytical, competitive, and challenge motivated. We are natural born hunters, and having the opportunity to conquer is what makes us tick. In most relationships, the man starts out as the aggressor, and the tougher the challenge increases the tenacity of the pursuit. Please beware that only a real man pursues for keeps. There are some that have not matured and only seek to conquer for selfish ambitions, so you have to discern which one is coming after you.

Once a man has committed to you, then it is of importance that you allow him to continue to hunt you. Complacency and routine is the number one killer of relationships. Once he becomes bored in the relationship, then the man starts to wander.

I’ve heard on several occasions that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. This may have been true many years ago, but in today’s society with a lot of goal oriented men, a man needs a woman who can be a complement to him. One of the main questions that men are asking is, “How can this woman help enhance my life? What does she bring to the table? What goals does she have in life for herself?” Men are looking for compatibility and not competition. We deal enough with competition in the workplace. We don’t want to compete when we get home.

While great sex is a key aspect to a man, but it is not necessarily a defining attribute. Sex never have and never will keep a man. Respect and trust, I believe, are the two most desired traits that a man looks for in a mate. When a woman respects her man, there’s nothing that he won’t do to please her. Additionally, a man wants a woman who he can trust with his most intimate thoughts and dreams. Once he believes that he can trust you with his heart, then you will see his communication increase. You will see him show more concern about your needs, and not only show concern, but will go out of his way to fulfil those needs.

Lastly, in order to make a relationship work, you must realize that he is not perfect and will make many mistakes, but if you keep working with him, you will have a loving and rewarding relationship. Nothing happens overnight, but it’s all a process, and if you won’t quit, it will be a love that lasts forever. I’m not saying endure misuse, abuse, or infidelity, but if he is trying to do right, stick with him. You won’t regret it.