The Difference Between Lust and Love

Lust is a passionate desire. You meet someone and fancy him. This can be mutual or it might be one-sided. He might fancy you and you might think, what a nice guy. Either way, one of you has a strong physical interest in the other and the other isn’t completely indifferent. The one with the interest pursues it with the necessary amount of vigor, rousing the interest of the not entirely uninterested party and soon, in the popular vernacular, emotions take over. This will involve passionate kissing at the very least and depending on how everything else is going, could move on to very much more.

This is what confuses the issue. In the heat of passion you exchange your common sense and share your bed for several nights with someone who you were very attracted to and now that person avoids you like the plague.

Therefore, you wonder what made this person change so quickly? But sooner or later, reality will rear its ugly head and you are forced to acknowledge that the person whose attention you have been pining for isn’t actually interested in you at all. However, it is better this happen early on, so you can appreciate what you  had was only a brief romance and nothing to break your heart over.

Love is the emotion that will sustain you through fifty years of living under  one roof, watching each other breathe and listening to each other eat. It can be but isn’t necessarily part of the chain that leads to the golden wedding party where two young people will catch each others eye and smirk in mutual recognition. Here, for your edification, is how the chain works.

It is perfectly possible to enjoy a really good song with someone you don’t much like, but only once or twice. With luck, in between the flirting, you will be speaking to each other and establishing some kind of mental connection which will involve recognition of mutual interests, hopes, expectations and things you find funny.

This will give a whole new dimension to the relationship and hope for the future, be it ever so short. During this period you will enjoy each others company and in between the courting you will try to spend as much time as  possible with one another. When you are not together you might feel sick with longing. This is a good sign but doesn’t necessarily mean anything significant long-term is happening. Lust and delight in romance can play funny tricks on judgment and you always need to make certain you are in control.