Small Things Girls Can Do to Peak a Boy’s Interest

Interactions between a boy and a girl consists not only of the obvious but also of the less-than-obvious. How the girl reacts to what the boy says, how she stands, what she wears, what she does with her hands, the expression on her face, etc. are subtleties that boys watch for whether they realize it or not. These things are often just as important as a variety of other factors, yet they are very small and can be changed or modified with little effort by the girl. Find out what us boys like to see, how well you are doing currently, and what changes you could possibly make to increase your appeal. There are two things that you need to figure out before proceeding with my advice. Those two things will be stated in the following 2 sections.

Know your boy

What is your boy like? Is he shy and quiet, secluding himself from others? Perhaps he conforms to the image of a stud very masculine in both appearance and behavior? These are questions you, the girl, must address before proceeding with any of my advice lest you run into problems. You most likely wouldn’t dress punk for a boy who is withdrawn in nature. Similarly you wouldn’t be shy and dress conservatively around someone is loud, outspoken, and highly active. Classify your boy and follow my advice accordingly. My points will be general enough that you can apply them to most every sort of boy. Not only that, but some of my advice is universal to all boys everywhere. Again, let me restate the importance of classifying your boy. This includes everything from knowing his demeanor, what image he wants for himself, who he wants to be associated with, very basic political and religious views, etc. It is up to you to uncover this information and use it to your own advantage. A quick trip to facebook can supply quite a bit of this information right at your fingertips.

Opposites attract? Myth or Reality

Myth Myth MYTH

I hate this term and whoever coined it should be knocked on the head. It is fact that people look for others who reflect their own ideals and personality. I can understand, to a point, that some people like to adventure beyond the barriers of their own personality, however we must get rid of this romantic notion of the unlikely couple finding love. In order for true, passionate love to exist there has to be some underlying similarity between the couple. They might differ on some issues but hardly ever do I find two people with completely separate ideals who are happily together. Relationships between people with a fundamental difference in personality, ideals, religion, or any key issue rely mainly on superficial qualities and only last for short time spans, sometimes as little as weeks. I don’t believe the titles of “girlfriend/boyfriend” are simply empty promises that can be discarded at will. I mention this for two reasons:

1). If you and the boy you want are two completely different in some fundamental area, you will limit your possibility for success.

2). If you do still wish to pursue someone who does differ in some fundamental way, you need to find some sort of fundamental way you two connect, or perhaps a way around that difference.

If you and the boy in question do connect fundamentally then this problem is bi-passed. You might not agree with my analysis but I am telling you this is how I have always found it, not only in myself but in other couples. There has to be some substance there that isn’t just “looks”. Otherwise, the relationship has no solid foundation and will crumble under it’s own weight.

Now that we got that out of the way we can proceed to the actual things you can do to peak a boys interest. Remember what I said in the first paragraph of this article and qualify the things I say with the sort of boy you want to attract. Lets do this.

The Inside Joke

Oh glorious inside joke. I love you so much. The inside joke is so valuable that is practically a necessity in establishing a relationship.

If you haven’t got one then get one!

If you already got one then get some more!

If you have a lot then slim down your portfolio only to include the very funny ones.

The beauty of the inside joke is apparent in many ways. An inside joke can be an ace-in-the-hole for a possible awkward pause. Instead of motioning the “awkward turtle” hand gesture, talk about an incident that reminded you of the inside joke. Inside jokes are beautiful because they can be used very often, assuming you have a good one. Inside jokes hardly ever lose their appeal and don’t grow old the more you use it.

Another added benefit of the inside joke is that you don’t necessarily have to be there for it to still be funny. Confused? Don’t be. Let’s say you and the boy in question have a inside joke dealing with computers, chances are one time when he is using a computer, a situation will arise which will make him think of that inside joke and make him smile. In this way, you aren’t there, however your joke still proves to be funny. If you don’t have a good inside joke find out something quickly, I can’t over-emphasize the power of this priceless resource.

Lastly, The inside joke has a third benefit. It keeps you on their mind. Any time they see a situation that makes them think of the inside joke between the two of you, he will be (by default) thinking of you. This is what you ultimately want, him to have you on his mind consistently. The inside joke has a variety of implementations, all of which only serve to benefit you.

Coming up with an inside joke isn’t particularly difficult. He always drinks Coke? Call him a coke addict. He fell down accidentally one time? Never let the incident go. It isn’t even remotely hard to come up with an inside joke with another person and after a few times on conversing I guarantee you will come up with one. A less common yet (I feel) particularly valuable inside joke is the nick name. This proves especially effective if used in moderation. Simple, casual statements such as “-the nickname- I love you!” are cute exchanges that refer to the inside joke and are also flattering. Whether the inside joke is a handshake, nickname, or other, it is a quintessential part of most relationships

“…No, No I was totally listening”

Convince us that you are genuinely interested in what we have to say and you are automatically good in our books. Most boys find themselves generally interesting and if you can convince us that you think we are interesting too we’ll love you that much more for it. We love the girl who stands close or leans in, looks into our eyes while we talk to them, and wants to converse with us but doesn’t mind if we take a little bit of domination over the conversation. We also love the girl who answers our questions, isn’t afraid to give long answers or to talk a lot, and really wants to talk to us. It all depends on the situation; sometimes we want you to listen and other times we want you to talk, it all depends on the flow of the conversation. Pick up on this flow and you’ll be rewarded dividends. Give us a mercy laugh once in a while even if we aren’t funny, or act concerned about our ramblings even if you could care less. It will make us think that much more highly of you and help massage our inflated egos.

You won’t ever win over a boys heart if you never talk to him. Start the conversation and think of a topic to discuss with him. Bring up something that you found funny or discuss last night’s episode of Project Runway. Be playful when you talk, giggle and tease him watching how he reacts. Anything to get him talking to you is a plus, he will feel more comfortable around as time goes on which is a big plus. The ultimate goal is that he is so close to you that he will feel no hesitation to discuss any topic with you.

Don’t change, evolve!

Turning from a Democrat to a Republican just so that the guy will like you more is insane. Pretending to be something you are not so that the guy will like you more is insane. Adopting the boy’s religion just so that a guy will like you more is insane. Changing your style from your look to his look just so that the guy will like you more is insane! These are all examples of change we can’t believe in. If you feel it is necessary to modify your moral values, religious values, or any other characteristics that makes you you simply so that he might like you more, then you have successfully robbed yourself of your own individuality.

However, I have no problem with evolving. Opening your mind to other possibilities while retaining what keeps you unique is an awesome proposition. If, for example, the boy in question is a little different from you in his tastes, give those tastes a try. Indulge your curiosity, venture out of what is normal for you and try to experience why the boy likes those tastes. Allowing your mind extra perspectives in which to view the world never hurt anyone and it certainly won’t hurt you. This takes only a modicum of effort on your part; asking him what he thinks about certain issues or what songs he likes is more then enough to sample what makes him tic. The boy will appreciate your effort to adopt or at least consider his view-point and will be happy that his perspectives matter to you. Never change the essence of who you are, but don’t hesitate to explore new possibilities life presents you, as cliche as that sounds.

Dress for the Occasion

If you ever heard the phrase “dress for the occasion” then you know where this section is going. Wearing appealing clothing and making an active effort to look nice is a small investment that reaps big rewards. He will think you are that much more attractive and you will be that much closer to him. Again I stress the importance of never changing your own style so as to better conform to another’s tastes, however if you know he likes a certain outfit then wear it. This isn’t rocket science, all you are trying to do is increase your appeal.

Boys and their sweet tooth

Boys generally respond well to flattery. A sideways compliment or some sort of praise does wonders for their self esteem. It doesn’t take much effort to do, and if you sprinkle your conversations with a little bit of sugar you will see a dramatic improvement in the relationship between you and the boy. The problem with this is that sometimes girls will overdo it. Too many compliments in one conversation and the boy will smell something is up. Although there are many ways to go about this, I find the best compliment is made subtly and quickly before an abrupt change in the subject. This is so the boy is not allowed the opportunity to either refute your praise or not to draw an exaggerated amount of attention to it. Trust me, a boy respond well to most flattery. Simply be weary of overdoing it.

Avoid Stalker Syndrome

A friendly person quickly turns into a creepy stalker if you overdo the things on this list. Talk to him casually when you see him, but don’t actively look for him. Don’t send him three hundred text messages a day, especially if he hasn’t responded to any of them. Don’t be awkward or ask awkward things of or about him. Moderation of these techniques is key, knowing where the line is between sociable and weird is a priceless skill to have. You will only undo all the things that you have accomplished if you are too excited to talk to him. Be wary, once you have the label “stalker” it is almost impossible to get rid of.

This is simple to avoid, simply be realistic and try to act casual around him. This list was designed to include small, subtle things a girl can do to peak a boys interest. Do these things only as an add-on onto how you would normally act. Practice this moderation and know when to lay off and you will avoid being labeled as a stalker.

Conclusion

There are a variety of small things you can do to bring you ever closer to the boy you like that lack too much effort. Hopefully my list about was helpful to you in someway. If not, I hope you would take the time to comment below as to what my article lacked. Thank you! And have fun!

Sincerely,

Green Sunshine