Single Females Versus Atlanta’s Ratio
How many times have you heard that finding a good man was hard because of the female to male ratio?
As a single black woman in Atlanta, how many times have you complained of the lack of dating and the rise of disrespect of our women and heard that it is because the ratio of women to men are 5 to 1? In some cases and areas, I’ve been told the numbers are unbelievably higher at 20 to 1 and that men are like children in a candy store.
The fact is, after researching this theory, I have concluded it to be a myth or rumor probably made up by some disgruntled sistah who may have actually believed the gap was that broad. It was an exaggeration at best. Still, it is clear to me that the females are faced with a dilemma. It is the dilemma of dating in the 21st Century.
As little girls, we read books that told us that we would have a Prince to come and save us from misery. Not until then do we have our happily ever after. But Prince Charmin didn’t sleep with Cinderella’s step sister. Snow White didn’t have to worry about her prince on the “down low” with the Seven Dwarfs. Little girls should be taught the reality of things early on and then maybe we won’t have so many depressed and suicidal females before they’re able to drive.
With that said, a report cites the ratio of black men to women as 597 men for every 1,000 women, nearly 2 to 1. But consider unemployment and there are 297 eligible men to every 1,000 black women. This statistic didn’t take in account that there are many homosexual men and men in the prison system. Still it is my opinion that our complaint if any, should be that Atlanta leads the nation in cities with the highest number of children living in poverty.
I was told by a male associate of mines that I was too hard on men. You see, he seemed to think that men without jobs or disrespectful men were being raised by bad mothers and that any judgment should fall on them.
I beg to differ, and that doesn’t mean I don’t hold women accountable to some degree. But bad men are not likely to have been raised by bad mothers, as much as they are taught by absent fathers and there’s a difference.
The plan, if you believe in the “good book” was that men were supposed to work while the women tend to the home and focus on the children. Now you have the majority of women working forty plus hours a week and trying to be a good mother and it’s hard. Most neglect to do the motherly things and make more mistakes than usual tending to their seeds and the future harvests a bad crop, thus provides another link to an already thriving chain of disruption.