Signs That You are Just a Booty Call

August 28, 2008 by JadeLuv  
Published in Dating

Ever wonder if your man or man friend is using or abusing you. If any of these signs ring true you might just be a booty call.

The only time that he finds to call you or text you, is at 1 o’clock in the morning. He wants you to come over because he is too tired to talk on the phone, and he just wants to see your beautiful face. You send him a picture text of your face and he says that his phone can’t recieve picture texts and that he would rather see you in person.   

He shows up at your house at all hours, usually drunk, and tells you that he is sorry and was totally wrong and wants to make it up to you. You on the other hand, let him in and wonder what he is talking about.

For those long distance ones! He begs you to drive to wherever he is and tells you not to worry about paying for anything. When it’s all over he buys you something to eat and fills your gas tank, so you can get back home. He tells you that he is so busy with working that he doesn’t have time to meet you for very long. Usually just lond enough to get what he wants.

You text him and it takes him a week to answer you back and his excuse is because he didn’t have reception, his phone was dead, he was using both his hands to do other work-related things, or he didn’t hear it ring.

He stops talking to you the minute his or your friends find out you too have been hooking up. You are like his own personal secret and he tells you that. He tells you not to tell because it will be more adventurous if only the two of you know. When his friends question him about it, he says that he was just asking for something back that your crazy butt stole when you were stalking him.

His reason for you two not being together is because he works too much and he would feel like a bad boyfriend if he couldn’t be with you more. He makes a point to tell you when he is not working and doing something else. When you mention that you wish you could be there, wherever he is, he tells you that you’d be bored and it wouldn’t be any fun, but that he would like to see you later.

He guilt trips you into believing that it’s his fault that you two can’t be together, so that you’ll throw him a pity party and say you understand even if you don’t. He makes a point to make you feel that he really wants to be together but that he just isn’t ready. He says that he really isn’t ready for a long term commitment right now because his last girlfriends have hurt him so badly.

When he is out with his friends and he sees you, he pretends that he didn’t. He even goes as far as to sit near where you are at but doesn’t talk to you at all. He might even go as far as to leave but pretend that he didn’t know you were there. They might also pretend they didn’t see you and then dance with another girl like you aren’t there. When asked they usally reply that it meant nothing and that you are the only one their heart desires. He might even go as far as to tell you she was a friends wife or that she is your cousin and that it shouldn’t really matter.

If any of these things have happened or are currently happening to you, then you might have once been a booty call or are now being used for that such purpose.

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5 Responses to “Signs That You are Just a Booty Call”
  1. jane Says:

    how can a man live with himself knowing he is using a good woman for sex?

  2. T Says:

    She’s probably not that good of a woman if she’s letting herself be used.

  3. Dawn Says:

    My story is a lil different, it is over about 4 years. This guy I met drove nice car and street bike, he worked odd hours because he had like 3 jobs and moves alot. I had met his parents the first night i stayed with him because he hadent moved out yet and d i hung out with him and his cousin a few times. Well he would do the typical… I want to see you can I come get you. After not talking to me for a couple weeks… But what is different is he would drive 2-4 hours to pick me upand bring me back to his place where we would have sex then he would cuddle with me and ask me to take a shower with him. Then turn around and drive me all the way back. He came over when I was babysitting and took me and the kid out and went for a walk with me. And took me to get coffee one morning before taking me home. What gets me is he wouldn’t pick me up till 11 cause that’s when he got off work. He made a couple comments about me needing to be with a man that can support me and when I got pregnant by someone else he still wanted to see me. Now it’s been almost a year since we last talked and we are starting to again but I don’t know if I’m still just a booty call or something more:(????? Help please

  4. JadeLuv Says:

    Dawn I would say that this article isn’t what you are looking for. Most women can pinpoint these guys a mile away. Another thing I would have to know is how old you are and how old he is. Just because he drives a nice car does not mean he isn’t a player. And I have seen guys drive an hour for a good booty but that doesn’t mean that is what this guy is doing to you. He sounds more like a guy that doesn’t want commitment. If he still wants to see you even after you got pregnant with another guys kid it is because he likes you but doesn’t want to commit. What you are doing is having no respect for yourself, yes you like this guy alot so it seems but where do you draw the line between getting what you want and just settleing for what he is giving. If you want more than you need to ask him for more and if he isn’t willing to give more then you should save yourself the wondering and move on :)

  5. Dee Says:

    Just wised up today. Seems this guy and I were hooking up for great sex but he didn’t seem to be interested in even speaking to me otherwise. Doesn’t respond to e-mails, when he asks me to come over, he quickly lures me to the bedroom but almost as soon as it’s over, he’s kind of pushing me out the door (I gotta go to work/sleep/etc.). Bumped into him this evening and he didn’t even speak. Wait till he calls me the next time.


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