Relationship Problems: Why Do Men Cheat & How to Prevent It
Common reasons men cheat and helpful pointers to prevent your guy from cheating.
It seems that men cheat more than women. Women are often left wondering what they did or didn’t do that led their significant other to stray and end up in bed with another. Here are some common reasons that cause a man to cheat.
Sex is mainly a physical connection for a man while women link sex with a much more emotional connection. A man can have causal sex with another woman without having any feelings for her, and while still loving you as much as he always has. For a man, love doesn’t always go hand in hand with sex.
Women usually are more content with their sex lives with their husband or boyfriend, often enjoying the closeness and intimacy as much as the physical act. Men, on the other hand, may become bored or restless with their own sex life because the emotional aspects do not out weigh excitement and arousal. This may lead him looking for a quick fix, something or someone different.
Men also have a harder time saying no. If a man is being hit on frequently by an attractive woman, he may eventually give in. A woman on the other hand, usually can block out any other male advances just because she is in a committed relationship.
There isn’t any way to ever be sure that your guy won’t cheat, but there are few simple things that you can do to decrease the chance he’ll wander.
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Don’t let your sex life become too routine.
If every Wednesday night, you two do the same two “acts”, he may end up bored. Do it in a different room, buy something naughty to wear, whatever works for you. Remember, keeping your sex life fresh isn’t just to keep him from cheating. With a more rewarding, exciting sex life, you’ll both be happier.
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Act out your fantasies.
If he enjoys sex with you but is holding back that fantasy he has, he’ll always be yearning for something more. He may be ashamed to share his fantasy with you because it’s not traditional. This can lead him to wanting to find someone to fulfill it. Find out what his fantasy is and act it out, then its your turn!
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Opportunity is the half of it.
Without being overbearing, stay connected with him. Take a sincere interest in his life; work, friends, family, etc. If he feels disconnected from you, he may be more likely to cheat.
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Treat him the way you want him to treat you.
If you respect and idolize your husband, he’ll reciprocate those feelings. If he loves you, respects you, and places you on a pedestal, he’ll be less likely to cheat.
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The accused eventually the commit crimes they are accused of.
If you constantly accused your man of cheating, even if he may not be, he’ll start. He’ll figure that if you think he is cheating, even though he isn’t, he might as well cheat. He’s already being blamed and punished for the crime.
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Define cheating with your boyfriend.
Cheating is defined many different ways by many different people. Your guy may not know what you classify as cheating because men tend to be more lenient with the rules. Do you feel that there is such thing as emotional cheating? Discuss that with him as well.
People make mistakes and make bad decisions. If you have been cheated on, assess the situation. You’ll have to decide if you can forgive him. If you can forgive him at some point, give him another chance. If you’ll never be able to forgive him, move on.
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January 6th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
I will try these tips.
January 9th, 2008 at 6:26 pm
Hey, sound like good things to remember.
February 3rd, 2008 at 11:31 pm
Interesting observations.
February 25th, 2008 at 11:41 pm
makes sense to me, the only time I ever thought of cheating on my wife was when we were having a few of the problems listed.
June 11th, 2008 at 11:00 pm
“You should learn your man and have a emotional connection so strong that he is convicted by the thought of even doing wrongin the relationship”. Use positive reinforcement to train your man as to what is acceptable and what is not. Do your best in the relationship so that he will know a lot is at stake if he loses you.
June 12th, 2008 at 8:00 am
although the above points and advice is helpful, there is one thing that always really bugs me, and that is, why do the women have to work so hard in a relationship to keep their man from cheating?!??? there always seems to points for a woman to do, how about changing all that to points for a man to do to keep their gfs/wife happier!! grrrr
July 10th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
#6 is right.. why do men sound like they are robots.. with answers like.. “They just do cause they are MEN” its like they get away with so much more cause they have
TESTOSTERONE
July 25th, 2008 at 12:28 pm
I’d like to thank everyone for their comments!
July 27th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I have no idea why i cheat. I love my girlfriend but can’t resist the temptation. The guilt that follows is unbearable yet I continue down this path of self-destruction. I agree with the points above but it’s not an excuse. I’m on the straight and narrow from now on…
August 5th, 2008 at 1:56 am
i hate it when i hear someone say hes a man, it think it is sad and desperate when a woman makes excuses for him. why shouldnt a man be held accountable for his wrongdoings. Are they like babies
that they should be excused. LADIES as long as we make excuses for them why should they stop, why should we deserve any better. even children at some point are held accountable for theyre wrongdoing. Are men any lesser or more excusable than children.
what kind of men are we raising for our daughters. should they believe that is just they way it is deal with it and accept it.
and men raising daughters just pray the guys dont think like you did. FOR THE CHEATERS IF THE SHOES WAS ON YOUR FEET WOULD YOU BE ABLE TO FORGIVE AND FORGET SO EASILY
August 20th, 2008 at 3:58 pm
I want to reply to #6 – it may bug you but rest assured it is true. Women have to work at it because he will go somewhere else if you don’t. It’s your choice really. After 20 years of marriage, we had it all, financial security, great jobs and a brand new home that we built together. Obviously it wasn’t without fault but we had a pretty good relationship but he was bored with our sex life and stepped out – for the excitement, for the adventure, for the sex. Keep him happy or someone else will. Maybe your guy is the exception, for your sake I hope he is but I bet he isn’t.
August 30th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
My man loves having sex at three or four o
clock in the morning. After he’s done playing Madden and my eyes are burning red from reading a novel under dim lighting. It’s okay I guess, he claims my stuff is so good if he do it to early he want be able to stay awake. Last night he proved to me why he always wait until it was time to go to sleep. I gave him a head job on the couch until he came. Man i was so ready to go to bed. The sad part was when he did give it to me like he delivers every night. We were all over each other for about an hour. Until I was sore and couldn’t come anymore. Eventually I told him I couldn’t take it any more. Baby please let’s go to sleep! After I let him hear what he wanted to hear, he got off and rubbed my back for a few minutes until I was sleep. Now I understand! Still I wouldn’t mind having a lot of quickies all over the house. I like the thrill of almost being caught!
October 12th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
I cant seem to forgive or forget what my boyfriend did in the past and now it is affecting the present because he is still associating with this one girl. I love him i am having his child in 2 mos but everytime i see him on the phone or everytime he goes anywhere i assume he is cheating. What do you think i should do? How can i get over the hurt and trust him again?
October 24th, 2008 at 1:50 am
yea,,,wut he say,,,
November 15th, 2008 at 10:17 pm
Some men cheat because they adore thir wives. They marry a “good girl” because they want a woman who is shy and innocent sexually. They can’t share their fantasies with their wives because it just feels wrong. Like asking your mother to give you a blow job or to “toss your salad”, but that doesn’t mean the man doesn’t really need the blow job or doesn’t want his salad tossed.
December 5th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
Men are weak when it comes 2 sex but i think there is a good guy there who could say no and stick to their partner.4 d ladies dont make sex an everyday routine.make him thirst 4 it.
December 14th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
I found out my bf was cheating by reading his messages on yahoo.I comfronted him and he couldn’t say sorry enough and swear he would never do it again but now he change his passwords and he is signing up on kinky dating sites.Are sex life sucks ,he drinks alot and alway want to beat guys up at the bar like he has to prove himself or something.I don’t want to lose him but I can’t take it NO more
January 20th, 2009 at 1:50 pm
I think we all have to accept the fact that men cheat and deal with it. Men,even women are animals and animals are naturally polygamous,we just have to accept that. But think of this,he is you in the first place not the other woman,so its always best to enjoy the moment you are with him.Try and please the guy if you want not to share. The more you think about your partner cheating,the more you nag him and drive him away.
January 28th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
I cheated to my lovely lady by having a child with another woman and now things are not good at all. She said, she forgive’s me and I’m trying by all means to be there for her. I think I’m experiencing what she is going true, because I made a promise to stay away from any women except my girlfriend. Reason for me to cheat, I think it’s because every time we have fight I always find away to make me feel happy. Not knowing that I’m about to make things turn ugly between me and her. After what we’ve go true, I told myself I’ll be a better man.
February 5th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
first of all,If a woman knows of her man had cheated on her the first time,why she havent left him the first time,when she stay,s In that relationship afterwards then she brought it on her own self so whats the use of her crying over spill milk for because theres other women out there that will drink that milk yhat she had spill.
February 7th, 2009 at 8:23 am
My problem is that my man always swears he’s right. If I say something about him that we both know is wrong he would try to switch it up on me and blame me for doin something. Wen I ask him why he talk and flirts wit soo much girls he says cuz he’s a guy and that’s wat they do he claims it doesn’t mean anything but wen he sees me on aim and he sees a guy say he babe and I respond bakk he gets mad. WHY?? Why can’t I do the same things you do?? How am I suppose to trust him wen he feels he can do anything he want but I can’t?
February 15th, 2009 at 3:08 pm
i do all that is listed and still he cheats, he claims he loves me a lot, I really care about him but am sick and tired of feeling like a fool, I want to leave him but I dont have the courage to. Has anyone felt like this, recently i saw a smear of lipstick on his shirt its so obvious but he’s still lying about it, what do i do?
March 19th, 2009 at 4:54 pm
well now i feel even more confused!! what a difference in opinions!! I been seeing a guy for just over a year and I know his past, he’s a definate cheat and way I see it once a cheat always a cheat! Like KK said its more the fact of being made to look stupid that really gets to me. I love being with him and we have so much fun but cant help thinking where and who he is with when he’s not with me! Bottom line is you either deal with it or walk away. Some women can ignore it and accept the fact that they come home to you, does that make them a mug? Maybe its better the devil you know than the devil dont???? Im so confused! He was with a girl for 7 years and I know he cheated on her so what makes me think he is any different with me! I think its down to the individual and whether they can handle it. I dont know but im gonna roll with it, after all lifes all about taking risks and chances and if he does, oh il find out and thats jus another lesson learned! Us women have a six sense bout this stuff and its bout time you men relised that
March 21st, 2009 at 5:07 pm
I cheated and threw the cat out my girl don’t know about it yet its was our cat she was being me to me.also she hurt my feelins.
April 14th, 2009 at 1:17 am
me and my boyfriend has been together 5 yrs and ifound out he was cheating,but he consent say he’s not and that iam the only one.But he still talks to the female he lies to go out to be with her,I have tried to boost our relationship up a bit I’ve started getting my hair done regular,putting on eyelashes because he said they were sexy to him. He just seemes so distant sometimes like i want to be here but i don’t know.You know people say do what he do but thats not me I love him.Before i cheat i would end the relationship.
June 25th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Men are disguting pigs. My boyfriend cheated on me & i’ve concluded that the reason was because i’m to much woman for him and he couldn’t handle me, so he had to get someone on his level that made him feel like the MAN. Yet when I say I’m leaving him he cries, beg & tell me how much he can’t live without me. It’s a bunch of crap! I believe he stays with me for the financial aspect of it. But i’m getting real tired of his ways and we all know that when a womans fed up there ain’t nothing you can do about it.
October 2nd, 2009 at 2:31 pm
this is good