How to Take It Slow When Dating: Seven Do’s of Getting to Know Your Mate

June 23, 2009 by Nicholl McGuire  
Published in Dating

Alleviate some of your dating stresses by following tips to help you eliminate the dates you don’t want from the dates you do.

You met someone that you really admire and you tell your family and friends about him or her.  They will most likely caution you “to take it slow.”  What exactly does that mean anyway?  You feel almost offended by their remark, because you know that you are going to let love run its course no matter how fast or slow.  However, you know from past experiences that their advice isn’t wrong, so how do you take it slow when dating someone who knocks you off your feet?  The following are seven dating dos that will help you take it slow:

One.  Do go to plenty of public places together.

Oftentimes when couples realize they really like being in each other’s presence, they abandon great opportunities to discover new things together outside of the bedroom.  Then their relationship crashes and burns before it gets started.  Remember to keep the relationship fresh by creating new things to do together.

Two.  Do spend more time talking on the phone and using email during those early weeks of getting to know one another.

So many people miss signs that a person really isn’t their match, because they are often in a rush to get to the intimate stage of the relationship.  Take this time to watch how they react when problems arise.  Observe whether they keep their word about calling you on the phone or responding to your email.

Three.  Do prepare questions to ask him or her prior to every meeting.

Have something to talk about every time you meet.  Life is too short to allow opportunities to ask questions pass you by.  You may be serious about getting married one day, having children, and buying a home.  Why waste time by not asking what your potential mate wants out of life, what are the things that he or she values the most, and where does he or she see themselves in the future?

Four.  Do participate in gift-giving.

Whether you are the one giving the gift or receiving the gift, expect or return the favor.  When someone really likes you as much as they say they do, they will do whatever they can to make you happy and vice versa. 

Five.  Do date others until you are ready to commit.

You may not be completely sold on seeing this person so why prematurely commit to him or her.  Allow yourself to get to know others until you are ready to settle down.

Six.  Do explain to your new date that you are dating others.

Many couples start off having problems because no one talks about the others that he or she is seeing.  Be honest about what you are doing.  If you find that you have to lie or cover-up about these other relationships, then you may be ready to date this person exclusively.  Find out how your date sincerely feels about you.  If you both agree to date exclusively, cut the others off and update one another on your progress.

Seven.  Do respect one another’s space and personal possessions.

When couples start getting serious about one another they falsely assume that they need to be around one another daily.  They also think that they should share everything between one another because they are now a couple.  However, it’s because of this kind of thinking that many couples go from being in love to falling out of love.  Treasure your time apart and enjoy your things without feeling the need to have to share them all the time.

Now that you have seven dos to assist you with taking it slow while dating, read the article that discusses seven don’ts when taking it slow.  These tips will help you get a better understanding of what it really means when people tell you to “take your time, take it slow, don’t rush…”

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2 Responses to “How to Take It Slow When Dating: Seven Do’s of Getting to Know Your Mate”
  1. Joie Schmidt Says:

    Good pointers – everyone’s different, but they are good guidelines.

    Blessings.

    Sincerely,

    -Liane Schmidt.

  2. NEilat Says:

    This true good advice followed it I met the man of my dreams and have been dating well. Only thing I gotta say
    Is keep the conversation light by avoiding talking about ex’s or other stuff that may seem like emotional baggage :)


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