How to Play a Player
Advice and tools about how to spot a player and how to play back written by someone with experience on both sides.
I could give you all kinds of statistics on how many people do what to whoever and all the numbers on how many people win and lose at love. But that is just it, you can not predict what is going to happen in any relationship based on numbers or someone else who may have been scorned. You need to figure out what is up with you and your significant other and not make yourself a statistic by reading others. I wanted to write this article about how to play a player because I used to get stuck in the numbers, books and tips and I used to spend all my energy listening to them instead of looking at what was really happening. Everyone is different and just because the person you want is acting a certain way does not mean they are falling into any category. All the information you find is just meant to help you take a look at what you are seeing and know you are not alone. Everyone has either been played or has played someone and they may not even know it.
Here’s the guidelines. The dictionary basically defines a player as someone who performs, could be sports, music or any other type of thing. I guess that is why we have now coined the phrase in relationships. When you have been played someone has performed for you and you have fallen into a game. That person has performed and made you feel like the star. When in reality they only wanted your attention for the time being and will let you loose when it’s over. This has nothing to do with who you are or how gullible you may be. This is their problem. Most players are looking for attention and you just happen to be there. So please, do not take it personally. I tell my friends, “there are empty people and full people. Empty people will fill their lives with as many people as possible so that they feel full and full people can stand alone and have other people because they enjoy them, not because they need them.” Players are empty people.
How can you spot a player? They always have a wingman, or woman, depending on their choice, the point is that they never stand alone. The only time you find a player standing alone is if they are out for revenge or if they aren’t really a player, they are a liar. The difference is that a player is out to pull people in and use them for what they can and a liar is someone who is unhappy with who they are and wants to be a player. Or I guess their could be psycho’s that look like either, but we can talk about that another time.