How to Get Over Your Shyness and Ask for a Date

Do you spit and sputter when you try to ask someone of the opposite sex out? Do you prepare a speech and then completely forget the words? This can be very frustrating, and you may feel like you are destined to be alone. But there are answers to your problem. Don’t give up; with a few simple changes in your strategy you could have a full calendar in no time.

Notes Are Not Only For Grade School

Notes are not only for grade school kids. Many women and men find it flattering to find a hand written note asking for a date. However, there are a few things that have changed since grade school the days of “check yes or no” have passed you by. You should consider a hand written note that is delivered in a crafty way. If you work together, you might leave the note in an inconspicuous envelope on her desk. Make sure you use high quality paper and don’t go overboard on singing her praise. Make it simple and polite. You could also consider sending her a nice card. Better yet, plan a party and ask if she would like to be your personal guest. Send the invitation just like everyone else’s, just make sure you make it clear that she would be your personal guest.

Consider a Romantic Gesture

If you are willing to risk disappointment, there are many ways you can ask a girl out without ever saying a word. Plan the date in advance, including a candle light dinner and lots of romance. Send her an invitation letting her know that she is invited to attend this special event as your guest. Do not do this secretively. Make sure she is clear this will be a date and who the invitation is from. You don’t want her being surprised if she thought you were someone else. Explain in detail what the night will hold and ask for conformation that she will be attending. You can also make the night a little mysterious by describing where the location is rather than giving the name of the restaurant. Most women love mystery and surprise; this can be a great way to get your invitation out there without having to say a word.

Become Friends First

Relationships that are based on friendship often last much longer. Consider having a friend invite your crush out for to join a group get together. Spend some time together in a non threatening environment. After a few times out with friends, you may find you have no problem asking her out in person. This may give you the opportunity to see if you are compatible before putting it all on the line.

You may find that the person you want to ask out is not as scary as you think after a little time. Take some time to work up the courage, and you may find that you are better at asking someone out than you think.