How to Get a Cool Guy to Like You

June 6, 2011 by zebra2188  
Published in Dating

An article on how to get that cool guy to like you, attraction and love.

You’ve seen that cool guy and don’t know what to do next. How do you approach him? What do you say? How will he react? Do these questions sound familiar? If so then you may need some help. The first thing you need to know is you’re not alone every day the same thing happens to millions of us around the world. Love is not an easy thing and sometimes it strikes us out of the blue. The next thing you need to know is that it’s unhelpful to think of him as the cool guy by doing this you’re creating distance between him and you and placing him on a pedestal that automatically makes him unapproachable and sets expectations he has little hope of living up to.

Getting to know him better:

To avoid being stuck in the friend zone make sure you let him know you’re single early on, this could be directly to his face or make sure to tell his friends within his earshot. Get to know him, talk about his interests and hobbies, likes and dislikes and open yourself to him telling him what you like as well. Look for common ground and be humorous and playful. Suggest doing things together, this could be as simple as going to a coffee shop for a drink or sharing a common hobby. Finally it’s important to have patience and not to be obsessive as you can’t force someone to like you and if he’s just not into you don’t take things too personally as many cool guys just aren’t ready for a relationship yet.

Becoming one of his group:

Rather than being on the outside looking in it’s better to be on the inside looking out. Start socializing with his peer group by finding out what his friends’ interests and hobbies are, by doing this you will likely find out more about him and will find it easier to approach him later. Be fun, self confident, make jokes and share in the humor as guys like girls that can relax. He will soon start to wonder who this fun loving, interesting new person is in his social group. Remember to be yourself as guys can tell when a woman is being false and it’s very off putting. By liking yourself first you make it easier for your cool guy and his friends to like you too. By entering his social group you make it more likely he’ll notice you, an important step in him fancying you.

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