How to Date a Japanese Guy Part Two

Japanese guys are known to be business minded people and popularly vying professionalism starting in the 80’s. They are highly fashionable and have variety of fashion depends on the choices of each man. There are fashions like Goth, funny, showman, European, baggy, and professional. They are also popular of over doing their hair do’s to follow certain faces of animation characters and they are very amusing and attractive to look at for some women. The professional looking Japanese men are also very attractive and portray a serious, hard, decent and respectful man which is also very attractive for some women. If you are attracted to them and want to know some points about them, here are some tips:

1.)    Japanese man wants their woman to behave well. I think all men want a decent, clean and respected woman. So it’s our responsibilities as a woman to have self-respect and degree of decency in order to get the respect we are worth from others. You shouldn’t lower your standards because you might end up being a doormat of these men. They are prone to put down some foreigner women because of bad reputation, despite of belonging to that foreigner bracket you should act, talk and feel with respect. You can do this by manifesting respect in you. Howling, being loud, dressing too sexy,  and not respecting them while in public places will not make you respected as well so do not demand respect if you don’t have it yourself.

2.)    Be sweet, soft while being fun, aggressive yet gentle but don’t over do it. Most of the times women who are sweet tends to expect everything is good, pleasant and ok especially if we see them smiling and start to demand. The reality about them, they don’t want to directly speak to you what they don’t like about you. Only very rare of them communicates frankly. When they feel you are demanding they would bail out because most of their women are not demanding specially in the courtship stage but after the ring has been given their women start the game of demands. Be sure not to be too aggressive, make them do the move still but you can add a little aggressiveness and just go with the flow when you feel they are hooked up.

3.)    Don’t be co-dependent. They are very dependable and they make good husbands but always remember to leave something for you because Japanese men cannot carry much stress from emotional women and besides they already have huge stress from their office/career life. Learn to stand on your own, have your own money even if he gives. He would even appreciate it if the two of you are working together because things are very expensive in Japan.

4.)    Expect that they are moody sometimes like any other men though Japanese men can be very dry in some days and very sweet in some days. There are ups and downs in their moods and sometimes do not communicate about it to you, they would just act aggravated. Just leave them alone and give them time to refresh, don’t interrogate. You can do that later when they already rested.

5.)    Don’t change the way you are if you are naturally sweet, affectionate, sensual. There would come a time that your relationship with him could turn sour, boring and dry but you shouldn’t change the way you are. Continue to give him the sweet gestures, kissing goodnight, cooking food but don’t argue. Don’t let his moods change you instead if you are naturally enthusiastic and happy, you can teach him your ways.  At first you might think they do not know how to have fun and inflexible but if you are a good teacher, you can train them to be joyful men and that will give them better outlook in life aside from being happy financially or success in their career life.

6.)    Take care of yourself, your beauty, your figure. If you are together with them for so long you tend to feel that they have less and less attention towards you, maybe you gained a lot of weight. Most Japanese men do not like obese and fat people; they see them as sick people. They considered sexy if you are almost anorexic, big boobies, light skin, frizzy hairs, and small weird voices. You don’t have to be like them but be the women that is loved and wanted by maintain your beauty, your figure and your attitude of being sexy especially your confidence. Don’t lose yourself, stay in touch with you.

If done properly, Japanese men are faithful and good providers. You can train them to be someone that you want as long as you already catch their heart, mind and soul.