How to Catch Your Man Cheating

Okay, so you’ve noticed some pretty strange things with your husband, boyfriend, or friend with privileges lately. He’s dressing snazzier and spending more time at work. Come to think of it, he’s been a little too chummy on the phone for you to believe he is really talking to a (non-intimate) colleague… especially when he hangs up abruptly when he realizes you may be privy to more than you need to know.

The thing is, if he is having an affair, you need to know. Asking him point blank if he is having an affair is likely to be met with a denial and an accusation that you are paranoid, crazy or have a very vivid imagination. You will need to do some super sneaky sleuthing to either confirm your suspicions or to set your fears to rest.

Phone Bill

Try to get your hands on the mobile phone bill and scan it for numbers you don’t recognize. Before dialing a bunch of unfamiliar numbers, do a reverse look-up on a site like anywho.com. You will be able to narrow down your list accordingly. Look for numbers that don’t fit his lifestyle. For most men, this would include any number to a health clinic, a nail salon, a bank or a school. Assuming your husband is not having a gay affair, these are all employers with high concentrations of women. Remember, if he is two timing you with someone also in an affair, they are probably going to chat on the job to allay suspicions.

Use the *67 feature before dialing any of the questionable telephone numbers to hide your number so it won’t readily be traced back to you. The last thing you want is for your man to know you may be on to his affair. A private call increases the likelihood you will go straight to voice mail. Have a pen ready and write down the names. Don’t disregard friends in common, either, since most men have affairs with women already in their circle of friends. Those ladies on the PTA with you or the boss’s secretary are all fair game.

If he seems to be sending and receiving a lot of calls to the same place, take notice of any patterns – the time of day, the duration of the call, etc.

Credit Card Statements

Credit card and debit card statements can be a wealth of information. Is he sending flowers and you didn’t receive any? Are there two deliveries on Valentine’s Day? Dining at restaurants you’ve never been to? Even worse, if he is shopping at Victoria’s Secret and you haven’t seen any of the goodies, this is pretty strong evidence that he is guilty of having an affair.